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post #226 of 237 (permalink) Old 12-09-2013, 05:57 AM
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I still love her but I go from thinking I might be able to forgive to being as angry as I've ever been. Yesterday I experienced rage issues just thinking about what she's done with these other men. Thanks for letting me vent.
When is this going to end?

Mustang, when are you going to start loving yourself enough to end this? Why are you doing this to yourself?

She is broken. Duh. Doesn't take a psychiatrist to see that.

But you my friend, are the truly broken one here. You should have kicked her to the curb months ago; and yet here you are, hanging onto her for God knows why, all freaked out and surprised that you are finding more filth and excrement oozing from her side of the marriage.

Un-fvcking-believable.

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When is this going to end?

Mustang, when are you going to start loving yourself enough to end this? Why are you doing this to yourself?

She is broken. Duh. Doesn't take a psychiatrist to see that.

But you my friend, are the truly broken one here. You should have kicked her to the curb months ago; and yet here you are, hanging onto her for God knows why, all freaked out and surprised that you are finding more filth and excrement oozing from her side of the marriage.

Un-fvcking-believable.



OP, time to pull out the D papers.

This kind of cosmic dumbassery occupies a temporal plane of ineptitude and lack of reason so profound a Zen master could spend a lifetime meditating upon its philosophical consequences.
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I haven't posted anything in a while.
I came back from my trip. Visited with some old friends. Went to Atlanta and did some tourist things with old friends, actually my wife's best friend from high school and her family. Spent a few days at the beach. Got to relax. Still snooping when I got home. I found another email account and managed to hack in before she could delete everything. She forgot she had the account. She had been IM'ing with this guy last year. Lots of sex talk and he asks her what the longest she had ever stayed with someone in a hotel room. She tells him that one of her boyfriends spent the night at my house. I went ballistic. I found a backup of her old Blackberry and it was loaded with emails between her and one of her old flames. This guy tells her one of his fondest memories was coming to our house so that's two men who have been in my home. She denied it. Even when faced with the emails and her response that it was one of her favorite memories as well. She still denies it.....can't admit she did it even to herself. This guy gets off on having her tell her sexual escapades which she was happy to do for his sexual gratification. I have a pretty clear picture of what was going on with her and she was out of control. I found out she loaned one of these men $2500 and he took over two years to pay her back. I asked her why she would do such a thing and she said it was only supposed to be for a few days but something came up and he wasn't able to pay back the money. I thought I might be able to get over this and forgive her. I still love her but I go from thinking I might be able to forgive to being as angry as I've ever been. Yesterday I experienced rage issues just thinking about what she's done with these other men. Thanks for letting me vent.
So what have you decided? How did your counseling sessions go? How are you coping?
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He kept her around. It's the only reason he hasn't posted since December.
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He kept her around. It's the only reason he hasn't posted since December.
He got sound advice.
It's his life.
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He's a lost cause.

His WS has screwed so many men during her marriage, I doubt she can even remember them all.

He felt trapped due to his age and how long he's been with his cheating wife.

I hope he's doing ok, but the mind movies he must be going through have to be monumental...
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this is story is just too sad, she will keep betraying him until she becomes Low drive for age, she maybe will be able to fake loyalty and remorse for 2 or 3 yaers and then when he enters again in the comfort zone she will again began her cycle of betrayals, and luckily for her Mustang just doesn't have deal breakers, so he will keep forgiving her a giving her chances, until she finally stops for age, and she will kept all her fond memories of all the lovers that shared her marital bed and still will be able to have mustang companionship to take care of her in her golden years (after all if he have no kids, or financial responsibilities that ties him to her, the only reason he is still is enduring all the lies, the betrayals, the findings, the disrespect is because he wants to), damn she even denied him the gift of parenthood to have her escapades of unprotected sex and he just keep forgiving and forgiving.

Just too sad, this just proves that bad people can have a nice life and never face real consequences of their actions and still have life just as they wished at expense of others.

One of the reasons I probably screw all my relationships in my 20's http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-...stay-kids.html
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His story was horrible! She essentially took 35 years of his life away and probably even denied him kids during this time! Met at 16, married at 20 and he was 51 at the time of discovery. Multiple affairs over 15+ years, no kids (possibly due to being on birth control during this time) and at least two of the OM in his house (possibly his bed!).

This would have shattered me - in his mind he probably thought that his life was over and he could not start again. How wrong he would be if he did think that!

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Could not even bring myself to read most of this it was sickening. Dude, if this is all real, your wife is less a woman and more a mobile sperm bank that only accepts deposits.

If you stay, I will not feel sorry for you. Some things are so F'd up you just gotta leave. Your wife should not be married or in any relationship. She is unhinged.

Hope you leave and she gets serious help.
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As some here know, I'm often on the "forgive" side of things. But not always. This is a horrible situation. I've just reread the OP's first post in this thread and it looks like a marital paradise compared to what came out later.

And yet as far as we know, he never really took the good advice given here. And sadly, this is not the only story on TAM like this.

Makes a simple ONS a pleasure to deal with in comparison.

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I left the marriage two years ago and I'm now dealing with trying to get the divorce finalized and move on with my life. She has dragged this out as long as possible. She is still living in the house that I am paying for and yesterday I received her interrogatories from her attorney. I didn't think I could think less of her than I already did but she still amazes me. This woman that I have supported for the last 30 years is accusing me of physical and emotional cruelty. The woman I saw through cancer treatments and stood by after amassing tens of thousands of dollars in credit card debt. She wants the house, the dogs, and half of my take home pay. She had the nerve to list anxiety disorder as the reason she couldn't work. Didn't seem to be a problem when she was meeting guys in hotels and bringing them to my house. She is truly a waste. I want this behind me and I want to never have to see her again. I can't move on until this is over and she's going to drag it out as long as possible. She says I have "anger management" issues. She has no idea what it's taken to hold it together this long.
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I left the marriage two years ago and I'm now dealing with trying to get the divorce finalized and move on with my life. She has dragged this out as long as possible. She is still living in the house that I am paying for and yesterday I received her interrogatories from her attorney. I didn't think I could think less of her than I already did but she still amazes me. This woman that I have supported for the last 30 years is accusing me of physical and emotional cruelty. The woman I saw through cancer treatments and stood by after amassing tens of thousands of dollars in credit card debt. She wants the house, the dogs, and half of my take home pay. She had the nerve to list anxiety disorder as the reason she couldn't work. Didn't seem to be a problem when she was meeting guys in hotels and bringing them to my house. She is truly a waste. I want this behind me and I want to never have to see her again. I can't move on until this is over and she's going to drag it out as long as possible. She says I have "anger management" issues. She has no idea what it's taken to hold it together this long.
Glad you decided to lose her, i hope the court proceedings work in your favour. What about all the adultery evidence, can that help?
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