Re: My wifes betrayal
I'm very sorry about what you're going through. Many of us on here have faced betrayal, but this is particularly brutal. So much so, that I think the odds are very small that you'll be able to get past it - no matter how remorseful she may act, no matter if she never cheats again.
So it's probably a wise decision to divorce her and move on with your life. I wouldn't recommend R and I think you'd be making a mistake to try. But it's your life and your decision.
But an even worse mistake to make, would be to attempt R without you giving and her accepting, every consequence she deserves. The other posters have spelled those out.
Even before you decide what to do, the first consequence needs to be separation from her. Shouldn't be a problem to do that without children. Spend "at least" a couple of weeks away from her and sort out your feelings. File for D during that period and have her served. Let her understand what it feels like to loose her husband over this.
Then watch how she reacts. Look for acceptance of these consequences and unwavering remorse. If you don't get it, she's made the decision for you; because there is zero chance you'll R successfully without it.
Even if she does demonstrate remorse, the separation time will give you time to make the best choice on what to do. But I'm telling you, I don't think most men could get past this.
Good luck and keep posting.
Last edited by badmemory; 09-16-2013 at 11:22 AM.