Simba09

Thanks. I agree. I will work on the TRUST issue. It is hard but I'm sure we will get back to the place of normal one day. My husband has made the choice of NO CONTACT. It is hard for me to disagree. I want NO CONTACT. I want to start a family and have children of my own w/ my husband. My husband is partly upset because this OW never told him about this and now 2 years later OW calls to bring it to his attention. THAT IS NOT FAIR! I understand they both made a mistake but OW should be ashamed! This too shall pass but just not now. It will take some time for me to get back to a place of happiness again.

HurtandConfused88

I understand where you are coming from. Last year my boyfriend also got a girl pregnant. And yes I was/am pissed and disappointed in him. But I am also mad at her. This girl definitely had the baby on purpose and simply is a bad person. She wants to act like an angel and innocent like the "act" never happen. I understand that the baby is her but I the past still happened. I do not respect her simply because she does not respect me. She forces her presence and is the type of person who wants to make it known she is the baby's mother. We were at an event together, a month after she had the baby and she INSISTED she be there. And just so happen to bump into me in an area big enough for 100,000 people. I completely understand your not wanting contact with the women. But as a law student myself, GET A LAWYER, get visitation, and make sure you keep a log of EVERY interaction. I do not think its fair of you to keep the child away but know that drama can be avoided by making sure you do everything textbook (i.e. neutral drop off site, no additional money). Before you go any further make sure you are ready and up for this. And old feelings of anger and rage are not going to get in the way. Your relationship is the most important thing.