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Old 10-06-2013, 06:41 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Someone who cheated on their ex wife of 10 years (pa), then on next gf (ea), and then on that same person two years later after they married (sexting)? Would you suspect they would do it again?
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Old 10-06-2013, 06:47 PM   #2 (permalink)
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ya serial

but with out more info I can't say he'll phuck around again or not.

I'm from the school that folks can change, but there are some screwed up poeple that are simply broken for good.

Then theirs @ss wipes like my self that hate what they have become and do the heavy lifting to be better not for anyone else but for me!

So is this swinging stick cheating on his old lady and continues or is he showing signs of remorse?
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ya serial

but with out more info I can't say he'll phuck around again or not.

I'm from the school that folks can change, but there are some screwed up poeple that are simply broken for good.

Then theirs @ss wipes like my self that hate what they have become and do the heavy lifting to be better not for anyone else but for me!

So is this swinging stick cheating on his old lady and continues or is he showing signs of remorse?
Can't speak for his ex wife but he has been very much so both times with me.
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With a most rampant pattern of deception going on like that? YEAH!!!!
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Old 10-06-2013, 07:20 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Can't speak for his ex wife but he has been very much so both times with me.
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BUT YET HE CONTINUES!!!!!!!!!!!

Bad behavior continues with out consequences. Are you waiting for a third time?
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BUT YET HE CONTINUES!!!!!!!!!!!

Bad behavior continues with out consequences. Are you waiting for a third time?
No just wanted to confirm he's full of it and I'm not wrong to believe it will happen again.
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Did he cheat on his ex-wife with you? Ie. Are you the AP from the PA?
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Did he cheat on his ex-wife with you? Ie. Are you the AP from the PA?
No, I came along almost 2 years after they separated. A month before their divorce was finalized.
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My take is he phucked up his 1st marriage and didn't learn a damn thing by screwing up his next relationship with you... and I haven't even mention the affair with on his ex and what happened to that crap? were is the OW now?

Sounds like the POS hasn't learned a thing and ya he's still jacked up so bail now and let some one else fix him.

Its obvious that you *NOT* are the one to correct his ways...hell he may be like many wayward and never get help and die alone in a trailer full of dogs and dog boo...only to be found by the mailman.

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How did you find out about his infidelity with his ex?
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My question would be... What has he done to figure out and resolve WHY he's behaved like he has? Until he's done that introspection and dealt with his issues, he's almost certain to continue his actions. But, even after, I'd say that he is more likely to cheat again than someone who has never cheated.

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Someone who cheated on their ex wife of 10 years (pa), then on next gf (ea), and then on that same person two years later after they married (sexting)? Would you suspect they would do it again?
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Old 10-07-2013, 06:38 AM   #13 (permalink)
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My question would be... What has he done to figure out and resolve WHY he's behaved like he has? Until he's done that introspection and dealt with his issues, he's almost certain to continue his actions. But, even after, I'd say that he is more likely to cheat again than someone who has never cheated.

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Some people believe that when they are "just friends" with someone, they can do whatever they want with that person because the intent to have sex and, therefore, an affair isn't there.

People like that, if they cannot imagine their partner engaging in similar activities and how they might feel, then it's best to move on.

I don't agree with the bolded partly due to what I just wrote above.
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How did you find out about his infidelity with his ex?
He told me. I also spoke to his ex-wife about it, we are actually somewhat "friends". They have children together so she is still in the picture. I'm not worried about her simply because I know SHE wants nothing to do with him.

As for the OW from their affair....I have no clue where she is. It ended years ago when he was still with his ex-wife. It was actually his ex's infidelity that ended the relationship.

I sort of let the first incident slide because, although we were exclusive, we weren't living together or married. Stupid me.

This last time, however, I am not letting it slide. He claimed it was "poor judgement". No, it was a choice. He made a choice. From his past experience he should know boundaries and how badly that sort of thing can damage a relationship. He was only thinking about himself.

He says he wants to fix things and get into IC. I don't know if even that is good enough for me.
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Some people believe that when they are "just friends" with someone, they can do whatever they want with that person because the intent to have sex and, therefore, an affair isn't there.

People like that, if they cannot imagine their partner engaging in similar activities and how they might feel, then it's best to move on.

I don't agree with the bolded partly due to what I just wrote above.
The irony is he knows how it feels, as his ex-wife did the same to him. He has also accused me (have a post about that too) constantly throughout our relationship of "talking to someone else". I would classify what he did as "talking to someone" so if he is sooooo concerned about me doing such how could he not imagine how he would feel if I engaged in similar activities. Kwim? He knew it was wrong and made the choice to do it anyways.
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