04-14-2010, 07:44 AM
Join Date: Apr 2010
| | Does my husband have feelings for another woman?
My husband is now back in touch with the a woman he used to work with, this has been going on since Christmas 2008 and I recently found all the emails. I don't know if always going back to her means that he has feelings for her. He stopped replying to her emails two months ago (I assume he felt guilty) and now he contacted her again.
Here's what he's done:
Exchanges over 500 emails with another married woman, all about sex
Keeps talking about what a great dad he is
Keeps telling her what a beautiful child she has, praising her
What a perfect wife she is, who sets the standards for every other woman he knows
What a lucky man her husband is
Goes out of his way to email her and see how she is, feeling insecure about her response
Months later, when she doesn't reply warmly, emails again baiting her with topics that would get her to write back (like how fast her child was growing)
Tells her to keep in touch, because she doesn't work there anymore
Tells her he REALLY hoped she was doing well too, when all she said was she hoped he was
Asks her to call him because he'd love to chat and was really looking forward to talking with her
When she didn't and asked him to call and speak to her husband, he did (to save her)
She finally goes to the office, he keeps talking about his kids again, how much he loves them and spoils them, showing off his fatherly skills
He asks her to come into his office and close the door
He touches her
She says no and promises to come back
He accepts and is disappointed, but tries his best to ensure she comes back
They talk about their families
He asks her to call him during the week so they can talk and they email when he's at work
He emailed her asking to get together because he "really needs to see her" and tells her how beautiful she is, how her make-up is always perfect... And "You're so cute..." when she makes a joke...
Does all of this mean that he has feelings for her? Or can it be just sex? YES I plan to leave him, I just really want to know if he has feelings for her.