My wife was driving up to a cottage with friend to spend the weekend. I was home with the dog and doing a system restore on the computer she had given to me when she got a new one. Three folders appeared that I did not recognize, one was a date, one a name and one misc. photos.
I opened the named one and I found a typescript of emails between my wife's email address and a man I did not know. The type script was graphic in detail about sex, the language full of cxnt, cxck puxxy. and I don't recall her ever saying stuff like that to me. Once, early in the marriage I tried to and she shut me down big time.
I phoned her, she had no idea what I found.
Her: Hi, things going good?
Me: WTF is this file "______" (Later she admitted that she knew exactly what I was talking about.
Her: I don't know, its not my file???
Me: Its your email address, and some guy "_______"
Her: Oh that, its research I did for the romance novel I am writing.
Don't read it, you'll get upset
Me: too late, I read it. Research, I don't think so. WTF
Her: you were always accusing me of having affairs, so I had one.
(We were having a hard time and she started going with her work mates to a bar where she got talking to one of the musicians. She started working late and working out at a gym. She lost weight and as a reward bought herself sexy underwear and would sneak out on weekends to see him at various bars. She wouldn't have sex with me and was paying a lot more attention to her looks. On that information I pushed to find out if she was having an affair. At one point she said she was going to take our son and move in with him, but he told her he didn't like kids and didn't want a live in because it would keep him from having sex with other women.)
We argued, I hung up.
Then I opened the next file and under a cover of flower pictures I found 24 pictures of my wife having sex with a man I didn't know, so, back on the phone.
me: hey, what about the stuff in this file "_____"
her: don't look at it and get off the computer.
me: too late
her: that's not me
me:???????
her: I was doing research for my novel
me: don't think so
her: The Doctors said you were dying, and all I did was take you to appointments and put you together so you could go to work, and take care of the house. I needed some fun in my life, a little sunshine in my depression. It didn't mean anything, it was just sex and he's dead.
me: and this makes me feel better about this. (what really sucked was the pictures were really well done, lighting, use of shadows and contrast. he really made her look good. And there was a cream pie shot)
she; I never meant to hurt you, I just needed something and you would never find out about it because you were going to die. And I never loved you, I knew two weeks before we married that I didn't want to be married to you and its been horrible. You know, I'm a very orgasmic girl most of the guys I had sex with when we were separated could make me cum, but you never could. All our sex problems were your fault.
me: click, dial tone.
I found more pictures and videos of him masturbating under the title of "a little dribble for you"
I called her back with each new discovery and it involved a lot of yelling and fighting and blame shifting
Her: you've got to stop calling every time you find something, you're going to ruin my weekend and "_____" (her friend) is upset by our fighting.
me: Ruined your weekend, what do you think you've ruined.....
Her: I never meant to hurt you, I didn't love him, it was just sex, maybe an hour of sex every week or so (10 months, sex at least 12 times) He was good and made me feel better and you were never meant to find out. You were lousy in bed.
me; click dial tone.
I continued to find bits and pieces and she had turned off her phone, "because I don't want it to run out of energy and not be able to call you."
The last file was empty, but the title was the date of the first time they got together and had sex. She told me that she would drive over to his place, have sex and go home. A couple of times she mentioned restaurants she wanted to go to in the type script but he just stonewalled and they never dated. And he was dead..