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Examples of the cheater's Script in this thread A resource.

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#1 · (Edited)
Since starting my time at TAM I have learned a great deal about the Cheater's Script.

It seems that almost everyone who has an affair be they a doctor, a lawyer, a mechanic or a secretary, follows, by-and-large, the Cheater's Script.

This morning on the way to work, I had an idea for a thread which would collect all the Cheater's Script nonsense that cheaters seem to follow.

I'll start of with a few, please add your own. Hopefully this thread will become a useful resource.

I love you, but I'm no longer in love with you.

Claims that the marriage has been "bad" for x number of months/years, though said nothing about this alleged problem beforehand.

And now it's your turn to add some examples culled from the Cheater's Script!:D
 
#276 ·
Here's some of the gas-lighting/TT cheater's story I heard:

1 hugs, because that's what good friends do
2 rub his face (did this in front of me), he doesn't mind
3 touched mid-section while slow dancing, noticed some wood coming thru, must have been the song
4 he saw my bra when I was changing, but no big deal, he's like my brother
5 tired, so took a nap together, spooned with him
6 napped again, only this time I was naked because it was so hot, but he was in his undershorts, so it was OK
7 showed him my naked body after showering at his place, which I do all the time, asked for his opinion on areas of my body I can improve on, but it's OK nothing physical happened
8 BJ or 2, but I kept my eyes closed and it was mostly hand
9 intercourse in car, we used condoms so it's OK
10 intercourse in my house, but it's OK because kid was at grandma's
11 start a new affair and jump to sex first night to try to get rid of the previous one because he got "too obsessed and controlling" with me

There was more, but you get the idea. Everything will be OK as long as I get to keep my cake (security of marriage) and eat it too (OM on the side).
 
#279 ·
"All I really wanted was you, but since I couldn't have you, he was a substitute, he even looks like you" - So he was doing me a favor, should I thank him?

"I was always in pain and unhappy (when she was cheating)" - You were in so much pain you kept it going for 3 yrs!

"He started playing head games with me" - The little head!

"He was just a walking dildo" - Buy a vibrator.

"I finally decided to end it by calling his wife, because it wasn't right" - No, you ended it because 1 you caught the cheater cheating on you (also a cheater) with another woman and you were mad/jealous, and 2 your H filed for D, and you thought your cake eating was about to end.
 
#280 ·
"He agreed to pay all the expenses for me to go sightseeing with him in NYC for a week. I insisted on 5 star hotels, room service, and first class flight because I'm a high priced hooker" (she actually said this, as if I should be happy that he paid premium prices). So you're really a high priced call girl that delivers?
 
#282 ·
The one I really like is"I know you think I'm having an affair,my wife of 42 years has actually said that to me at least 3 times in your he last year, in the middle of a complete different conversation.
Gee,should I be a little suspicious,
Deguello
 
#284 ·
His just a friend

Why cant i have friends of the opposite sex?

Your so controlling?

We have the same interests.

He likes all the shows i like all the femanine civilised stuff, not the violence and rubbish you force me to watch

I'm pretty sure his gay and besides even if his not he aint my time.

His just a sweet gentle soul unlike you and you need to stop threatning to bash him. Nothing is going on his just a friend.
 
#286 ·
His just a friend



Why cant i have friends of the opposite sex?



Your so controlling?



We have the same interests.



He likes all the shows i like all the femanine civilised stuff, not the violence and rubbish you force me to watch



I'm pretty sure his gay and besides even if his not he aint my time.



His just a sweet gentle soul unlike you and you need to stop threatning to bash him. Nothing is going on his just a friend.

Update your thread recently, @SF?
 
#287 ·
I was bored :confused:
I'm not happy :confused:
You didn't take me to that BBQ...4 years ago :wtf:
I didn't like your new haircut :confused:
We never went anywhere or did anything :bsflag:
I gave up my sense of adventure when I married you and we had children :confused:
I feel like life is passing me by :scratchhead:
He's just a friend :mad:
You didn't have enough friends :wtf:
You didn't go out with your friends enough :wtf:
What's wrong with me having a guy friend? :nono:
We only kissed once :bsflag:
We are incompatible…a mismatch :scratchhead:
It's all your fault :moon:
He was easy to talk to :scratchhead:
I just saw something I liked :mad:
We only talked when we went to the hotels :bsflag:
It didn't happen that often :bsflag:
I don't know what I want :confused:
I will not end up like your mother and father (Happily Married for 54 years) :wtf:
He always treated me nice :scratchhead:
Why are you being judgmental :banghead:
I'm a stubborn b1tch :iagree:


This is all I could come up with in 30 seconds! :rant:
 
#288 ·
I will not end up like your mother and father (Happily Married for 54 years) :wtf:
Why are you being judgmental :banghead:


This is all I could come up with in 30 seconds! :rant:
Well I guess she is doing her best not to end up your mother and father:gun::eek:



are you still with her?

and don't be so judgmental next time:ezpi_wink1:
 
#291 ·
"You acted like you were doing me a favor by marrying me" - When we met she was homeless, living in her car. Now she lives in a high-end house, get whatever she wants, and doesn't have to work

"You always though you were superior to me" - Depends on which category, but generally yes.

"He appreciates the real me" - If you mean banging a drunk, unemployed artist in her husbands house, then yes, I guess so.

"You two are so alike, you would like him as a good friend. - I guess we were alike in that we were both attracted to the same woman
 
#296 ·
"Other people have done worse and the BS stayed."

"I didn't actual sleep with any of them."

After finding a text where he was thinking about her in a meeting and wanted her to send a pic..."That didn't mean anything. You are the only one I want. I didn't sleep with her."

"You never wanted me." Really?! I put up with this bull for years.

Oh, and now that it is over, "It takes two. You have to open up." Or, "I'm done trying." Sorry, no more chances. You didn't try the other 5 times, so why do I owe you anything now.
 
#297 ·
What if you weren't told why? The H told the girl he cheated with that he was leaving me or wasn't married. That's the problem. Couples have issues and instead of sorting it out together it becomes too much for one and they seek solace somewhere else. I would rather he left me first and then screwed around with the slag (can't even call her a lady)!.

Edited to add - when confronted about sleeping with her he said they did not. They did everything else but this! 2 years later I found out they slept together. Apparently he was protecting me from hurting more???? I always said the truth always comes out! It blew the whole thing out of the water again. I was concerned about STD's and went for a check up. I didn't catch anything BUT the part that broke me was 'we used condoms'!!!!
 
#299 ·
Forgive me if these are on here. I just found this great site and wanted to add some.

"I never stopped loving you while I was with her."

"I never thought that I was being dis-respectful to you by having an affair with her."

"When I took her to the same hotel, I didn't think about us going there for our anniversary."

"I never put my tongue in her mouth, that was to personal."

"I only touched the very top of her breast since we were not going to have sex and I didn't want to look like less of a man by not doing anything to her."

"He always bought her a birthday card and lunch for her birthday for 3 yrs., yet she never did anything for his, where was his pride?"

"He can't remember who suggested the weekends, her or him?

That's all I can remember for right now.

Granny7
 
#301 ·
"The whole time we were apart, I was always sad and depressed and just hoping you would come back and make things right. " - of course the sadness and depression did not affect her choice to have multiple relationships, some lasting years!
 
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