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post #136 of 656 (permalink) Old 11-15-2013, 11:19 PM
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Good work on your part and good news. You have to know you going to his work has him freaked out. I'm not sure he has told your wife though, they usuallyflip out when something like this happens. You should get a picture of him and put him on chreaterville and send his boss the link. Personally, I would turn every screw I could.

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Health insurance sucks. If I had my own I would have shown her the door. i hate being stuck. Sorry if I seem to be rambling from one topic to another.
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If I had my own I would have shown her the door. i hate being stuck.
You really need to talk to an expert on health insurance.

Your wife cannot drop you as long as you are married. If you are legally separated with a written signed separation agreement I don't know if she can drop you or not. If you are out of the house but without a signed legal separation agreement you may or may not be legally separated.

Your lawyer can advise you what the legal status is for different scenarios. Specifically, if you move out are you legally separated? Can she unilaterally do something which makes you legally separated? This will all depend on your local laws.

So, there are situations where you will be married, or legally separated, or physically moved out but not legally separated. You need to know precisely what puts you in each category.

Then, you need to know legally what your rights are, and what her obligations are, for health insurance in each category.

When married she cannot drop your insurance, I believe.

If legally separated, can she drop your insurance? This is the critical question to get an expert to answer. If she cannot drop your insurance, you have no reason to stay in the house.

If you simply move out without doing any kind of separation paperwork, in your specific state, can she drop your insurance? You need a true expert to answer this for you.

I think you are making assumptions about your insurance coverage without having true real facts. It would be to your benefit to get out of the house now.

Also, how long does divorce take where you are? If she fast-tracked it, could it be done before Jan 1? If not, you have nothing to lose initiating divorce today, as long as your lawyer tells you she cannot drop your health insurance if you file divorce.

Once Jan 1 comes along, are you able to afford your own insurance? You, I believe, will be able to buy it with the pre-existing condition. So the question is whether you can afford it.

Finally, would your wife be amenable to some kind of open marriage agreement which would allow you to keep insurance through her but you agree to live separately as if divorced?
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Brother, don't give up. I know it's hard to hear those kind of words, but you will survive. Don't stop your treatments, don't give that person the satisfaction of "winning" so to speak. You are stronger than she will ever know. Just take it slow, day by day, you will beat this, one way or another. Give it your all, good people always make it, somehow, someway. Good luck.
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You know not all waywards are completely lacking in empathy. Many go through their affairs wracked with guilt for what they are doing. But these two?

You know if I were OM, and I knew my AP's husband was ill with a serous, possibly terminal disease, and I saw how uncaring and cold my AP was towards her husband and his condition, it would give me pause. I would stop and think " my god, what kind of soulless b!tch have I gotten myself involved with?" But not this guy. He just wants that free sex and azz. And her? Lady Macbeth has nothing on this witch.
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What seems weird the more I show her that I don't give a blank the nicer she is.


It is amazing how often that approach works.
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You know not all waywards are completely lacking in empathy. Many go through their affairs wracked with guilt for what they are doing. But these two?

You know if I were OM, and I knew my AP's husband was ill with a serous, possibly terminal disease, and I saw how uncaring and cold my AP was towards her husband and his condition, it would give me pause. I would stop and think " my god, what kind of soulless b!tch have I gotten myself involved with?" But not this guy. He just wants that free sex and azz. And her? Lady Macbeth has nothing on this witch.
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Under the conditions you mention, I would be scared to death of a man that may not have anything to lose.
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I can almost see how people can snap. But I know that I can keep a cool head. The last thing I want to do is come out looking like the bad guy. Especially when the custody issue comes up. I didn't threaten him but I hope I gave him a subtle message. The business card I gave him was one I made up and printed at home. It just had my name and occupation as father of two and married to b*&ch. for phone number I used his secret phone number and his address. But since the day after she has been home right on time and no two hour trips to store the get laundry detergent. I just need to keep the peace for a few months to a year and see how health issues come out. I am going to see my regular Dr this week because I think I have been having some anxiety attacks and get something for sleep. Thanks for the encouragement it really helps.
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I didn't threaten him but I hope I gave him a subtle message. The business card I gave him was one I made up and printed at home. It just had my name and occupation as father of two and married to b*&ch. for phone number I used his secret phone number and his address.
This is just so full of awesome I don't even know where to begin.

Others may not share my opinion on this, but I define this as...

Like a BOSS!

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For the lips of an adulteress drip honey and smoother than oil is her speech. -Proverbs 5:3
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Under the conditions you mention, I would be scared to death of a man that may not have anything to lose.


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One thing you might do, is send him a link to cheaterville.com and say" I wouldn't want to end up here would you, everytime someone googled my name, this would turn up. Eeeeww, pictures, messages and everything."
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One thing you might do, is send him a link to cheaterville.com and say" I wouldn't want to end up here would you, everytime someone googled my name, this would turn up. Eeeeww, pictures, messages and everything."
Please dont. Gives them an opportunity to get a judge to tell you not to do it.
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I will post everything on Cheaterville on a later date. I have to keep a squeaky clean image right now. I already have the script thought out.
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How ya feelin beta?

BTW can I have a link to cheaterville when its done? I have a collection of screenies.
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How ya feelin beta?

BTW can I have a link to cheaterville when its done? I have a collection of screenies.
You will be the first to receive it. I am sure you have some good ones.
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