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post #91 of 656 (permalink) Old 11-04-2013, 08:17 AM
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Why would it take months to get an attorney?

See if you can get one to do an emergency hearing to force your wife to re-establish your insurance.

Your wife is liable for your medical bills by the way. Does she realize this?


Check with your local cancer association to see where you can get care.
Your wife is definitely liable up until such time that the gavel hits the bench finalizing your divorce, provided, of course, that you are residing in a community property state!


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Isnt there a FEDERAL law covering this?

Pretty sure there is and she has committed at least a misdemeanor crime you should use against her in the D proceedings. Consult your lawyer of course.

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I'm so sorry to hear that your WW is a horrible person.

My beloved uncle and grandfather passed away to to having throat cancer it was horrible they were like fathers to me. I truly love and miss them every day.

I hope that you can make a fully recovery try to remember these two things.

1. Don't give up hope.
2. They're people that love you and need you.
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I read in the news papers snap and do something dumb.

Please don't do anything crazy.
Please don't stoop to her level.
Please remember that you're a better person than you POS WW.

The things you need to be worried about is your health you children and how to get away from you WW.
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.... I have an appointment to see him next Tuesday under another name. This will be my first face to face with the POSOM. After months of being a baby I am going nuclear.
What do you hope to gain by having a face-to-face with the OM? I don't see this having any good outcome for you.


It's also giving him way too much power. Now that you have exposed him you need to let that work. Do you know if his wife has done anything yet?

If you have her address, send her the book "Surviving an Affair", by Dr. Harley. It will tell her what to do to break up the affair. Once OM is working to save his own marriage, your wife will be free to get her head screwed on straight.

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It helps to put a face with the person you helped destroy. It makes it personal.It can also be bad. It did help me a lot. The other guy would not even look at me. Of course I think he knew I would have beaten him to death on the spot had he done anything more to provoke it. Its been six years and he is still with my xWW. He still wont look at me. I am not sure what she told him but something had to have been said. I am actually glad they are together now. I look back at all the stuff I put up with and wow was i stupid. At least this way they are not wrecking other good peoples lives. I am sorry you are going through this V8. Its has to be hard to be kicked twice. I hope you do find some closure.

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Sorry for you pain my friend. I would not meet with that POS OM. It will do you no good. I have often thought about seeing my WW OM. He was someone I knew from school. He was a POS then and he is now. My concern is with my anger while it is in check today it has not always been that way.

Exposure is the way to go. I like the Facebook angle. Take care of yourself. Are you seeing and IC? Best of luck
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I think confronting the OM is a bad move right now. Perhaps it is a diversion from your health worries?

Your #1 priority right now is getting healthy. Dump all the crap from your mind related to your wife and posom. It just doesn't matter right now. Once you're healthy you will be better able to confront posom. You'll be a mean MF'r who just kicked cancer!
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post #99 of 656 (permalink) Old 11-05-2013, 12:21 PM Thread Starter
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I will keep my appointment to see him. He does not know it is me he just thinks I am a potential customer. I am not going to say a word. I just want to see who blinks first. I am not going to do anything rash at this time.
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I still have the VAR and I am sure he will call as soon as I leave. I just want to hear her reaction.

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OP: i've read a couple hundred stories of wayward spouses on CWI over the pasy 6-7 months. Your WS is the meanest of all of them - and that is saying something, indeed.

You need to act to restore your health insurance and treatments ASAP. But I am also concerned about your physical safety at home. I am completely serious. forget about her acting like an angel sometimes, that's just more evidence of her rotten nature - she's displaying no real conscience whatsoever. If she's willing to go to extra efforts to stop your treatments, is there anyhing she's not capable of? I'd be careful in accepting any food or drink from her, frankly. Who knows what she can convince herself she'll get away with.

sounds like you've been in a weakened, physical state for a few years at least.....spinal injuries, cancer. has she ever abused you physically? hit you, pushed you, handled you roughly ??
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What does the OM do for employment?

This kind of cosmic dumbassery occupies a temporal plane of ineptitude and lack of reason so profound a Zen master could spend a lifetime meditating upon its philosophical consequences.
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Something is off on this OP. Not sure if this is making sense, but there is something not right here.

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Can you give an update on how your wife has been reacting to you.

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OK I feel more at ease not worrying about certian people finding my post. The POSMFDHOM is my wife's direct supervisor. She works for a large county owned agriculture Co-Op. It seems weird now that I have became the a^% H%$# she has been acting much nicer. I know it is an act. I think she is scared she will lose her job she has had for 27 years. I am going to file a complaint with the county later on. Now I am going to try to listen to others and work on my health. If she gets fired I will really lose my insurance. This is such a mess. I never would have thought the most important decisions I will ever have to make all revolve around stinking health insurance. The call that said I was no longer insured did come from a county phone and it was a male. The girl in doctors insurance just put a note on my file that said I was no longer covered by so and so and I was told to show them a new insurance card. Somebody's head is going to be on the chopping block but I asked them hold off for a little while if they could. I am sorry if everybody thinks I am a troll or something but this is the only place I could openly talk about things and I have got some really good support and advise.
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