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post #106 of 656 (permalink) Old 11-06-2013, 10:16 PM
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XB you were/are at the point where you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

When people get to that point...watch out.

I'm sorry for your illness.

Do what you have to do!

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I'm a bit confused here, I have worked for a doctors office and I also have worked in the HR field. The doctors office always confirms insurance coverage with the insurance company before each appointment. Even if an employer calls the doctors office to tell them the corverage has ended (which is rare) you do not make any decisions or take it for any face value. This would also raise flags for the doctors office to contact the insurance carrier to verify the information.

Whoever made this call has misrepresented theirselves and may have also violated several laws. I don't understand why the doctors office turned you away without verifying the insurance, and why they just believed a caller. I would ask these questions, maybe in the effort to pull this off they falsified documents?
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I'm a bit confused here, I have worked for a doctors office and I also have worked in the HR field. The doctors office always confirms insurance coverage with the insurance company before each appointment. Even if an employer calls the doctors office to tell them the corverage has ended (which is rare) you do not make any decisions or take it for any face value. This would also raise flags for the doctors office to contact the insurance carrier to verify the information.

Whoever made this call has misrepresented theirselves and may have also violated several laws. I don't understand why the doctors office turned you away without verifying the insurance, and why they just believed a caller. I would ask these questions, maybe in the effort to pull this off they falsified documents?
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It only cost me problems on one visit, When I signed in and I was told of a possible problem with my insurance I had a feeling of what was up and just left, I have read on here these past few months that the person that cares the least has the most power. I have lost so much sleep and weight from not eating there comes a time where I decided I did not care about anything anymore. I was deep in the whoe is me time. I had spent months wallowing in self pity while I knew what was going on and just too afraid to lose her to do anything. I am keeping my app next week with OM. He thinks I want to rent the countys service of spraying and seeding fall ryegrass. I am not going to say a word. I am going to walk into his office and just look at him. I know it is a bad idea but am at the mad and I don't care anymore stage. It is time for it to be about me
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In another thread it was brought up that the BS can sue the company his ww is working for since her affair is with the boss. Check with your attorney about a sexual harrassment lawsuit.
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In another thread it was brought up that the BS can sue the company his ww is working for since her affair is with the boss. Check with your attorney about a sexual harrassment lawsuit.
I just need more time until new insurance law that allows pre existing conditions. Until then i think I am stuck. if I was healthy i would have filed D last week,
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I just need more time until new insurance law that allows pre existing conditions. Until then i think I am stuck. if I was healthy i would have filed D last week,
Chap is right. Talk to an attorney.

Know your rights.

Get your healthcare under control.

Then stick it to the OM.
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I do have an app, with a lawyer early next week.
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It only cost me problems on one visit, When I signed in and I was told of a possible problem with my insurance I had a feeling of what was up and just left,
Don't mean to harp on this but it is a VERY important issue. Were you told your insurance was cancelled by the doctors office or were you told there was an issue with your insurance?

The difference is HUGE. If they said it was cancelled somebody went through a lot of trouble to convince them of that fact. If they said there was a problem it could have been a simple mixup having nothing to do with the OM or your wife.

I know you have lots to think about here, but this is no small thing. I wouldnt let this slide.
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Don't mean to harp on this but it is a VERY important issue. Were you told your insurance was cancelled by the doctors office or were you told there was an issue with your insurance?

The difference is HUGE. If they said it was cancelled somebody went through a lot of trouble to convince them of that fact. If they said there was a problem it could have been a simple mixup having nothing to do with the OM or your wife.

I know you have lots to think about here, but this is no small thing. I wouldnt let this slide.



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XB, I really really think it is a bad idea at this time for you to confront posom. He and your wife do not know that you know, correct?

Think of your D as a war. You have to be strategic. Unemotional. Calculated.

Never give away intel to the enemy. If anything, give false information to the enemy.

Going to posom's office is going to alert a lot of people to what is going on. Him, your stbxw, any office staff who see you there, etc.

Divorce takes a little while to process usually. I don't think you will have a finalized divorce prior to January 1. Thus there may be no reason to delay filing at this point. But talk to your lawyer and also to a knowledgeable insurance person to be sure.

Definitely nuke whoever called the docs office if you can. And nuke posom's career. He will lose his valuable government pension, too. Just do all of this when it makes the most sense for your best interests.
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XB, I really really think it is a bad idea at this time for you to confront posom.
Agree. Look, I'm a vindictive MOFO, and I'd want to F him up, so I'd avoid a face-to-face with a POSOM.

NOTHING good can come of this. If he comes off as a smug a-hole - "Yeah, I banged your W, what are you going to do about it?"...you might snap and end up in cuffs. Don't do it.
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XB, I really really think it is a bad idea at this time for you to confront posom. He and your wife do not know that you know, correct?

Think of your D as a war. You have to be strategic. Unemotional. Calculated.

Never give away intel to the enemy. If anything, give false information to the enemy.

Going to posom's office is going to alert a lot of people to what is going on. Him, your stbxw, any office staff who see you there, etc.

Divorce takes a little while to process usually. I don't think you will have a finalized divorce prior to January 1. Thus there may be no reason to delay filing at this point. But talk to your lawyer and also to a knowledgeable insurance person to be sure.

Definitely nuke whoever called the docs office if you can. And nuke posom's career. He will lose his valuable government pension, too. Just do all of this when it makes the most sense for your best interests.
They know I know. I had created a facebook account under wife's name and sent him friend request. He accepted and where before only friends could see his friends and family. So I posted everything on his wall (bad idea I know but I Had reached my breaking point) I still think it was OM that called but they will not give me the number. I think he is upset that I told his wife. I may take the advice I have gotten here and chill for a while at least until I can get some legal advice. I still like the Idea of my scorched earth policy But you guys may be right and it could backfire on me. I just want to do something than can make them hurt emotionally. I have gone through a lot of physical pain but the emotional pain is much worse.
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Do you know how the OMW reacted? What effect has telling her had on the situation?
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Hi x, your old user name is still here in all the posts where you have been quoted. Maybe a mid could change it. If not, maybe PM the people who have quoted and ask them to make the change.
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