Re: Voice Recorders Carefull what you wish for
XB, I really really think it is a bad idea at this time for you to confront posom. He and your wife do not know that you know, correct?
Think of your D as a war. You have to be strategic. Unemotional. Calculated.
Never give away intel to the enemy. If anything, give false information to the enemy.
Going to posom's office is going to alert a lot of people to what is going on. Him, your stbxw, any office staff who see you there, etc.
Divorce takes a little while to process usually. I don't think you will have a finalized divorce prior to January 1. Thus there may be no reason to delay filing at this point. But talk to your lawyer and also to a knowledgeable insurance person to be sure.
Definitely nuke whoever called the docs office if you can. And nuke posom's career. He will lose his valuable government pension, too. Just do all of this when it makes the most sense for your best interests.