Not only did I accomplish the goal of having ex-wife served at work. But it happened in front of everyone, including the d-bag OM. At the same time, I exposed her to friends and family, far and wide. It was legit.
She freaked, lol. Came home in tears and absolutely shocked, she was crying and shaking. I thought about holding her, but then I realized I didn't want to catch "cheating dumb wh0re" syndrome. So I just watched the breakdown.
Then I said, in a cold, calculating tone. "I need you to pack a few things and go stay with your sister or parents for a while, I don't think our son needs to see you in this state. So please, get off the floor and start packing some things and leave".
And she did.
OWNED.
It worked, lol. I really couldn't believe it, but full on exposure and a cool, calm attitude crushed her into submission. I wanted to like do a huge celebration maybe dance the dougie or something. But I kept my cool demeanor as she got packed in tears, saying how she "loves me" and "I'm her heart and soul"... Dafuq????
And how she didn't love OM and that she thought of me during her time with him... blah, blah, blah.
I just was like "yeah, I understand. But you need to leave, so just focus on packing your clothes."
She said she wanted to go get our son and take him with her, I said "NOT. GOING. To. Happen." I guess I kinda got all alpha male on her and kinda intimidated her a bit, and she really started crying. She even said, that I could go have other girls and stuff, and then we could be even. All sorts of really crazy and f*cked up things started coming out of her mouth. Like "she thought I was having an affair when she was pregnant, and that she feels that she's not good enough for me and that she doesn't like how women look and flirt with me, and that I could even bring another girl home (like all guys, I've fantasized about my wife with another girl, but I was never really serious about it) and it would "break her heart" but she would let it happen. I mean, just some wacky stuff.
Well, she left but not after she tried to f*ck me, I mean full on like c*ck hungry slvt, but I turned her down ( I gotta admit, it was really tough as my wife is so beautiful, even when she cries). Then she just got quite and cried into my chest, she said "do you hate me". I said, I don't hate you, but I can't stand the sight or sound of you and you really need to leave. But yes, I kinda hate you.
Then she left.
And then I cried, uncontrollably. I wept. I think it was just the stress and the realization that this all happened in about 2 hours . I just set on the couch and cried, for a while. Then I stopped, and took a long cold shower. After I felt pretty good.
Our son, was confused that mom wasn't living in the house anymore, but I told him that Mommy and Daddy are going to not be around each other like we used to. That Mom and Dad have decided the best thing would be to just be Mom and Dad. Then I hugged him and held him for what seemed like an eternity.
Big changes happened. But with my incredibly family support and great friends I adopted to being a single dad pretty well.
The ex-wife moved in with her Parents for a few months, then got herself a small house to rent.
I never kept our son from his mom. When he wanted to see her and stay with her, I let him. I feel that, because I have such a strong relationship with my mother, my son deserves at least the opportunity to form a bond with his mom, even if his mom did something bad to his father. I felt that being a good father and adult required me to encourage a good relationship with his mom.
But it hasn't been all smooth sailing. I've had some setback and have almost or been on the verge of f*cking everything up. When I told the OM wife, she wanted to meet. After we met, she totally wanted to bang. I could have banged the wife of the guy that banged my wife. I thought about it. I really did. But then I thought that I wouldn't' let my wife's behavior curve mine, so I didn't do it, but again, it was so, oh so tempting. My exwife didn't stop trying to "win" me back. She consistently (still does) makes advancements towards me. And I've almost slipped up. Almost. But I've done ok. This has been a very emotional time in my life. And I've found a new found energy, an extra gear I guess. I have trucked through it.
Now, I have had some fun, when my son is with his mother. And oh boy, has ex-wife really gotten jealous. I can't help it. With all this stress I need release. And there are plenty of women who are willing to release it with me, lol. Nothing serious, but I got a consistent booty call list going on. It's nice.
But I do miss my wife, I won't lie, I love her. Big time. It's been so, so tough. I mean, my god, she's absolutely stunning and we just have "it". Now, I am going full steam into the divorce. I will not reconcile with her or placate and become a doormat. But I do crave her. It makes me sad and anxious. I wish I could go no contact, but that's impossible. And plus, If I'm honest, I don't really want to. Like I said. Emotionally draining. This has been the only thing that's shocked me about this- how much I still love my exwife. On d-day I basically despised and lamented her. But it did change, and we have had some arguments and she has gotten crude and downright mean to be, but for the most part, I can tell she's very, very remorseful about what she did.
I have thought about taking her back, but then I think about the lying and the pictures. And I just can't do it. There's something in me that won't let me I guess. I just wish it never had happened. I wish it were an emotional affair or ONS or something. Maybe then I could have reconciled. But I can't. And I won't. And I'm sad about it. But life goes on and I'm a better man and father because of this. So like my grandpa used to say "Shave that dog at teach it to hunt. Chin up cowboy, saddle in, you got things to do".