Well my weight post war was 120 my after was 100 pnds I couldnt LOSe I looked SICK. but NOW I am almost 130 pnds. I think thats more from drinking though but its permanant.
Well if you end up divorced at least you will look good! That's what a friend of mine told me. And don't forget to continue to pamper yourself. I now go for more regular facials, body treatments, massages etc.
I don't think I'm quite ready to prepare consolations for myself if the marriage does fail. I still have hope, and a lot of faith in my wife, to stick with it.
I lost a significant amount of weight over the last 2 months. Now at 40lbs. Understanding diet, I was able to take advantage so as to drop more body fat than muscle. You don't want to lose muscle. There are plenty of good protein drinks out there. A couple of good meal replacement drinks (I only trust 1 company) and once I've had that, it's all healthy grains, fats. On an 'up' day I might find myself having a sandwich from Subway or something but end up sitting on the toilet. I'm fine without all the stuff I used to eat...at least now. I hope this is a permanent trend for me. Everyone I work with (Who doesn't know what I'm going through) makes comments on a week to week basis.
Keep your protein and healthy fats a bit high, the rest can stay low and you'll be fine. Get yourself a multi-vit and some fish oil capsules and you're good to go. Having breakfast lunch and dinner has never been easier. You don't want to stick to just the drinks, you need to get something solid in your stomach so it doesn't go weak on you.
In case anyone wants to know:
You should be eating 1-1.5 grams of protein per lbs of lean body mass (Your muscle mass). You can guesstimate if you don't know how to check.
You should eat 0.5 grams of healthy fats per lbs of body weight (Optimal body weight)
If you're calorie counting, you can fill the rest of whatever your daily intake to maintain your weight (Or drop it) with healthy carbs.
If you just eat carbs and nothing else, you will lose muscle and not fat (For the most part) and while that equals weight loss, it doesn't equal healthy weight loss. In the end you will drop both muscle and fat, the idea is to drop more fat than muscle.
don't worry there is hair transplant surgery always, as long as you don't lose your health. I am taking every day Omega 3 and Vitamin B complex. It helps me relax. I had a cousin who went through a terrible divorce and few years later she died of leukemia at the age of 32. I think it was all stress related.
Wow! 40 pounds is a lot of weight to drop that quickly! I think I'm in the neighborhood of 15 lb in the last month, 20 on the outside, but it's not going to go so quickly in month 2. My attitude is less fatalistic now, my appettie has risen to a healthy level, and frankly, I'm getting back to enjoying food.
I've never been one to count calories or cencern myself with protein intake, but I suppose I should look at that. After an initial week of eating little or at least little of value, I managed to move back towards normal foods at a smaller dose. Having the kids helps this - I need to feed them fruits and vegetables as well as meats and grains. It helps that it's summer and we have a CSA share - its value is even higher this year. So we're getting lots of leafy green vegetables that do us good each week. I'm eating salads when I can, less junk food overall. The only downside is that I work in the field a lot, and I'm not usually too hungry around lunchtime, so I tend to grab junk food or a hot dog or something from the local quickEmart on my way by. Breakfast and dinner I'm doing fine and my late night snacking is virtually gone.
I do wonder if I'll lose muscle mass, but happily I've had an increased desire to exercise since the affair too.
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I lost a significant amount of weight over the last 2 months. Now at 40lbs. Understanding diet, I was able to take advantage so as to drop more body fat than muscle. You don't want to lose muscle. There are plenty of good protein drinks out there. A couple of good meal replacement drinks (I only trust 1 company) and once I've had that, it's all healthy grains, fats. On an 'up' day I might find myself having a sandwich from Subway or something but end up sitting on the toilet. I'm fine without all the stuff I used to eat...at least now. I hope this is a permanent trend for me. Everyone I work with (Who doesn't know what I'm going through) makes comments on a week to week basis.
Keep your protein and healthy fats a bit high, the rest can stay low and you'll be fine. Get yourself a multi-vit and some fish oil capsules and you're good to go. Having breakfast lunch and dinner has never been easier. You don't want to stick to just the drinks, you need to get something solid in your stomach so it doesn't go weak on you.
In case anyone wants to know:
You should be eating 1-1.5 grams of protein per lbs of lean body mass (Your muscle mass). You can guesstimate if you don't know how to check.
You should eat 0.5 grams of healthy fats per lbs of body weight (Optimal body weight)
If you're calorie counting, you can fill the rest of whatever your daily intake to maintain your weight (Or drop it) with healthy carbs.
If you just eat carbs and nothing else, you will lose muscle and not fat (For the most part) and while that equals weight loss, it doesn't equal healthy weight loss. In the end you will drop both muscle and fat, the idea is to drop more fat than muscle.
Well actually mine was not infidelity since we were not married yet, but it seems like almost the same, I also lose weight when I had it. It seems like you don't like to eat and move and sleep anymore. All was like uphills to get through it.
I lost 10 pounds within a month, that's the good part coz he always say I'm fat. But the worst part is being sick and having sleepless night all the time. It's made worst that he still insist that we sleep together instead of separate rooms. That's the part that made me sleepless.
If you start eating a normal breakfast, lunch and dinner, you will find the desire to sleep at normal hours. Your body doesn't work on a 24 hour clock, the 24 hour clock is a Christian thing tied into the year. Late night snacking isn't an issue unless you get stomach pains or nightmares from it. Your body is amazing at dealing with the food it takes in, not matter the hour. But the hormones you release depending on what time you eat will play a role on sleep time depending on the person.
Protein is the building block to muscle. If you don't take in enough protein you won't get enough to keep your muscle mass and your body will begin to eat away at the muscle for energy. At a certain point your body will figure itself out 'how much muscle do I need to keep to continue a usual active life' in which case your body will know how much of your muscle to consume to the calories of fat and cabs you consume. Taking in enough protein spares the muscle and you can hold onto it while your body eats away at the fat. A perfect diet will have you holding on to all of your muscle while riding your body of fat. This takes a lot of effort and proper nutrient timing, not easy with infidelity on your mind and kids, if you have them. BUT if you Google PSMF (Protein sparing muscle fast) you will learn how to control the amount of healthy weight to loss compared to the unhealthy weight. In the end, you will lose a lot of fat and keep the healthy body mass. Because it's really a fast, you will lose a lot of fat in a short period of time (Much like I have). You will gain a certain amount of physical confidence back which may help in the healing process. I've had many people compliment me on my weight loss and asking me how far I plan on moving down the scale. Everyone is surprised.
My wife sees me everyday so she doesn't see the changes in the large amounts that friends and co-workers do. When I mention this she always seems to point to certain fashion sites on the web that she wishes she could buy from for me. This makes me feel like she's slowly gaining a physical 'desire' for me.
Like I said, male or female, if you are interested in diet that may take advantage of your loss of appetite, then send me a PM and I will help out with diet and routine. It is almost always the same with men and women. While not the optimal way to lose weight, it certainly is a time when weight loss will happen, why not take advantage of it. The trick is keeping to it to better yourself.
During the first 10 weeks after discovery of my wife's infidelity I lost 45 lbs. Best thing that ever happened....I was type II diabetic....not anymore.
Yup, when I started to get suspicious of my wife's activites, I couldn't eat and keep down anything. 4 weeks later, things are returning to normal. I am only 23 and active, so I don't think I lost more than 5-10 lbs. Now I'm getting back in the gym and running more. I think this is a great opportunity to get some lean mass It seems cliche here, but its true, when you first find out, you never think you'll be happy again. But after time, things do start to look up whether you think the relationship will ultimately work or not.
Reaching way back. Found this in a google search that took me right back to TAM. This is a serious concern for me and one of the objectively verifiable data points that brought me to the awakening that my wife was having an affair. I'm 6ft, athletic, and an athlete. Pre-D-day weight, about 170. I'm pretty lean and engage pretty recklessly for a 44 year old guy in a number of high impact dynamic sports and activities. Today I am 150. Initial D-day was March 29, 2012. I went from 170 to 155-160 pretty fast. I can't finish a meal. I lost interest in eating, along with a lot of other things. A few times a day, I'll sense a gnawing pain in my abdomen, but I don't recognize it and it's so much less pressing than all the other pain that it has to take a number and wait it's turn. Starting about 6 days ago a lot more and categorically different awfulness began to present. 5 lbs in the past week. It's hell and I think a hazard. I think this is an important topic.
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Re: Side Effects of infidelity - weight loss 
It seems cliche here, but its true, when you first find out, you never think you'll be happy again. But after time, things do start to look up whether you think the relationship will ultimately work or not.
