06-26-2010, 04:41 PM
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Northeast US
| | Side Effects of infidelity - weight loss
I recall reading a side note in a thread on here about weight loss when discovering infidelity and wanted to open a thread about this topic. I experienced the same about a month ago when I discovered my wife's online affair.
I don't know how much weight I've lost since finding out, but it's significant. I've had a weight problem for most of my life and it's a factor, for sure, in my low self-esteem and ultimately, in the state of my marriage. Prior to discovering the affair, our marriage had been in terrible shape and she'd called for a break. I responded by eating more. Since discovering the affair my appetite took a dive, my weight has dropped a great deal, I've begun to address other problem areas of my life, and my self image is on the rebound. Taking the kids to the pool the other day I realized that, for the first time in years, I wasn't really self conscious about my image with my shirt off. Oh, I'm still significantly overweight, but I can see the difference. It's a little confusing to find this kind of positive response in myself to something so negative in my life.
So I wonder if others have had this kind of response to discovering an affair, and if this is a genuine kickstart to something or a temporary phase. I do hope that permanent changes in my habits result from this. So far my appetite has stabilized at what I'd call a normal level for a human male, and I'm seeking out exercise in ways I wouldn't have allowed myself to do a few months ago. There's plenty of pain in my marriage, but as for myself, I'm happier with myself than I have been in at least a few years.