07-03-2010, 11:23 AM
Join Date: Jun 2010
| | Re: Pregnant and my husband is cheating, I need advice!!
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. What is most important right now is that you look after YOURSELF first. I have a partner who is a bit of a jerk too and our situation sounds very similar. While I was 9 months pregnant, I found evidence confessing his feelings for another woman and I almost left him considering this is not unusual behavior. I think if you can consider couples therapy, and you give him guidelines based on what he has to do to be in your life, then it is worth a shot. Tell him it is definitely over if he cannot live up to them. You need to do what you believe is best for you, because ultimately that baby will be happiest when his or her mommy is, and if s/he grows up being used to having a father and a mother that are not together, it is much better emotionally for your child than if you split three years down the line, for example. No one should have to put up with this kind of behavior, especially when making the most beautiful gift in the world for your partner. It's just so wrong, but is actually more common than I thought. I hope you can figure out what is best for you. Remember that you just have to do what it takes to be a good mother.