Hi, I'm new here and hoping that you'll be kind.
I've been married for 9 years, my husband is a wonderful man who I love very very much, he goes through pretty dark periods of depression and I find that I spend a lot of my time trying to jolly him out of his moods. He isn't very communicative and sometimes it's like pulling hens teeth to get him to talk, he also isn't very physically demonsterative and doesn't ever EVER annitiate physical affection. that said, I DO love him very much and would never never want to hurt him in any way.
A couple of weeks ago a male friends (online only so nothing physical) started paying a lot of attention to me, I found myself becoming increasingly attached to him, he was so easy to talk to and we talked about a lot of things in my past that my husband has said outright he doesn't want to know about. I found that I was having more and more feelings for this man.
I was very confused, he started calling me which just added to my confusion.
I didn't really understand what an 'emotional affair' was until I started looking at things online. I have said goodbye to this man and told him not to call me anymore and removed messanger from my computer so that there will be no temptation to 'chat'. I feel like I've done the right thing but now I feel so incredibly lonely
I don't know wether I should tell my husband what happened, I don't think with his insecurities he could handle it very well.
I've asked him before about going into therapy but he isn't willing to see that there might be a problem, he believes that he's just 'quiet' and I should just accept things as they are.
I just want to be happy and it just seems so damn hard to be these days.
I miss my friend but I don't want to get caught back up in something that will ultimately damage my marriage and hurt my husband.
I need help