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I don't like myself and I need help

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Hello everyone. I wish I wasn't here. I have a real dilemma on my hands and I'm afraid that I'll make a terrible mistake. I'm sleeping with a married woman. Not a good thing, I already know that. What makes it worse though is that the husband of the woman works for me. I'm his boss. I'm ashamed to admit it, but I've even scheduled him to work different shifts just so I could spend time with his wife. It makes me feel terrible to write this. It's the first time I put that into print, and it looks bad. But I love this woman. She's smart, sexy and we just click. I've never felt this way for any other woman before - even for my wife. We're legally separated so I am not cheating on my wife at the moment. I think she and I can have something really special. But I don't feel right with this situation right now. If there was a way to get this man to leave his wife, the problem would be solved and we'd all be happy. Unfortunately, I don't think that's going to happen. So what now? How can I get through this without hurting anyone? I'm even considering giving the guy a bigger bonus than he deserves because I feel bad about what's going on. But the guy is not that good of a worker. He's a nice guy, but he's not that smart and tends to slow everyone down. I'm trying to find a good solution that will be beneficial to everyone. I'm looking for ideas, support, a sanity check, all of the above. I don't know what I'm looking for. I'm confused, angry, sad and I feel guilt. I need to figure out what to do.
 
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I know a lot of people don't believe me, but I really need your help now. Somehow my wife found out this weekend that I had an affair with Jane. I don't know who told her, but I am in trouble. My wife is asking a lot of difficult to answer questions. I don't want to hurt her, but if I answer all these questions she'll probably leave me. This isn't fair for any of us. What do I do from here?
 
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I know a lot of people don't believe me, but I really need your help now. Somehow my wife found out this weekend that I had an affair with Jane. I don't know who told her, but I am in trouble. My wife is asking a lot of difficult to answer questions. I don't want to hurt her, but if I answer all these questions she'll probably leave me.
All the more reason to answer the questions. Because refusing to answer honestly based on the bolded is making the decision for her and doing so for your own selfish end, as if cheating on her and badmouthing everyone else involved wasn't bad enough.

Answer her questions and let the chips fall where she throws them.
 
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Hello everyone. I wanted to come back to let you guys know that you were a huge help to me. It was touch and go for a period of time last year, but this year ended up being great. The wife and I are doing well. For the most part I've been walking the straight and narrow, and the new job is going well. This is a good place to get help.
 
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So did your wife come clean about sleeping with Joe ? I think I read earlier that you suspected this and that although Joe had acne, Jane said he was particularly well endowed.

You also said that Jane was out of Joe's league - that she was a class act - but later you said she wasn't. Is she prettier than your wife ? And is your wife more classy ?

Seems like Joe is consistently punching well above his weight when it comes to women and also that the two of you have the same taste in women.
 
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#250 ·
Hello everyone! Since all of you have been a huge help to me with my marriage issues, I would like to share an update. The Mrs. and I are expecting a child very soon! I'm so excited! We weren't planning on having a family, but if fate gives one to us then who are we to judge? We've never been happier. I hope everyone who is in pain posting on these forums have the fortune of a happy ending.
 
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