everyone makes mistakes.
I know I will hear the wrath of this, I have written on this site before, please see threads. It will be 1 year this weekend, and a month after our marriage, my husband got arrested for DWI – he had to wear the scam bracelet and had to attend AA classes – after the bracelet was removed he continued to drink and lie about how much he was drinking. It put a strain on our marriage, he would disrespect me to my friends and no amount of pleads would make him calm down on the drinking. It came to the point, where I became and still emotionless into the marriage, and Yes I did wrong, I looked elsewhere and cheated on him. He found out and told his parents, for he knew if he didn’t and I walked away they would of blamed him.. So in turn, he blamed me for everything – Instead of his parent having us discuss it and work it out with counseling or so, they escalated it to my family and degraded me in front of them. What I am upset and hurt is that when he found out, I told him why and how I have been telling him numerous times, that I am unhappy and we need to fix us – he agreed to all of this, and lied and went to tell his parents.
At the moment, he has moved out to his parent’s house and I am by myself – my mother and brothers want nothing to do with him, as well as his parents want nothing to do with me.
He wants to work things out and go from there, he wants to trust me again, in which I would take the steps to prove to him, but I ask him to stop drinking cold turkey – and he states he cant do that , he will calm down to 1 drink but cant stop cold turkey right now. We are at the state where I am so confused, I don’t know if I should leave and get a divorce or fight for something that deep down in my mind might never change.
I do miss him at the house, but I know I could be strong to do with out him. I do love him, but I know either what we decide will be a long road for both of us. We are both 30 years old.
What would you do?