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Old 12-28-2013, 07:03 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Well, as suggested by my IC, I'm posting my story here to try and cope and heal...

I've lurked here for many weeks, trying to get the courage to write about this...

This is so very difficult for me. The steamy details I've learned, and the horrid images in my mind, won't let me rest or even have hope...

Here goes...

My wife and I met in college, began dating and of course had regular sex, and fell very deeply in love. We married about a year after we graduated. We've now been married for 19 years. We have no children (a mutual choice), we both have good careers, and until a year ago I thought she and I were just so lucky to have married our soul mate on our first try...

But about a year ago I came home early from work due to sickness, and saw a strange car parked on the road in front of our house. I thought nothing of it and went inside, and heard strange sounds coming from our bedroom. I entered our bedroom and saw a horrible sight; a strange man on top of my wife, with her legs WRAPPED AROUND HIM, and him going to town like a Singer sewing machine...and her moaning in pleasure.

I'm a somewhat big/strong man, and I pulled him off her and beat the living **** out of him. I carried him outside (he was still naked) and dumped him in the street. He got in his car and drove away. Later I found out that he went to the hospital that night with a broken nose and jaw. Which proves that some tragedies have a small silver lining.

Anyway, my wife swore to me that it was a "first". Her lover was a co-worker than had pursued her relentlessly for years, and she finally gave in after a night of bar-hopping together while I was away tending to my sick mother. The affair continued for about a year until my above-described D Day.

After I beat the **** out of him, I told her to leave. Of course she pleaded and begged, swore that it "meant nothing", and pledged her love and committment to me. I didn't buy it.

Anyway, she left and we didn't talk for 2 weeks, mainly because I didn't answer her phone calls or emails.

More later. This is as much as I can bear to write now. I'm about to lose it again just recounting these details.
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Old 12-28-2013, 07:15 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I carried him outside (he was still naked) and dumped him in the street. He got in his car and drove away.

Was he carrying his keys up his a$$?
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I carried him outside (he was still naked) and dumped him in the street. He got in his car and drove away.

Was he carrying his keys up his a$$?
Don't know man. ???
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Sorry you're going through thisI hope that posting your story helps you come to terms with exactly what happened, [ assuming it's true]and enable you to move on with your life.

Cheating is low.
But bringing a strange man or woman into the marital home and having sex on the marriage bed takes someone with absolutely no moral values who cannot function above their sexual urges.

Well you got some of it out of your system by beating him and throwing him out naked. You need to find out if he's married or has a girlfriend, and expose him.
Then you put her out , and sought counselling for yourself, so far so good.

There are no kids involved, please think carefully before you take back this woman.
Already she has blamed her lover for " pursuing her relentlessly for years."
Bullsh!t.
Why didn't she inform you?

Think carefully.
The woman who's telling those things is not your college sweetheart, she is a completely , different woman.
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Don't know man. ???
The poster wants to know how the OM drove his car, if he was naked, where did he get the keys?

Not that I care, just explaining it to you.
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The poster wants to know how the OM drove his car, if he was naked, where did he get the keys?

Not that I care, just explaining it to you.
Well, I don't know. All I know is that as I was closing my (house) front door, he was driving off. Maybe he left his keys in the ignition, maybe he has a spare key stored in a magnetic case under the wheel well (as I do). I don't know. WTF does it have to do with my situation?
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Well, I don't know. All I know is that as I was closing my (house) front door, he was driving off. Maybe he left his keys in the ignition, maybe he has a spare key stored in a magnetic case under the wheel well (as I do). I don't know. WTF does it have to do with my situation?
He's just wanting to make sure your story is real.
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Well, I don't know. All I know is that as I was closing my (house) front door, he was driving off. Maybe he left his keys in the ignition, maybe he has a spare key stored in a magnetic case under the wheel well (as I do). I don't know. WTF does it have to do with my situation?
Now, why would a chap leave his keys in the ignition? I mean, that's sort of a high risk activity, right?

My take on that is that your wife is not the first colleague he has had carnal congress with and that he leaves the key in the ignition in case he needs to make a quick getaway.

If so, he needs to be reported to the company human resources/personnel department ASAP.
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Where I live some people still leave their car keys in the ignition along with not locking their homes. I don't but this could happen and I wouldn't be doubting the man...he has enough troubles the way it sounds and were here to help him!
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Maybe the man kept a key in his car, in case he had to run out of OP's house, should he come home early and find this man on top of his wife??
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Now if you were residing in Texas and you walked in and found that he was doing that to your wife, as long as he didn't leave the threshold of the dwelling itself, you could have pretty well had carte blanche with him!

But trust me! your W is no better than him! Get yourself a good divorce lawyer and give her the air. And contact that POSOM's and W's company's Human Resources Dept. and fill them in on your W's and POSOM's newfound hobby! And get photos of them and submit them to Cheaterville!
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I got arrested when I beat up my ex's OM. Spent a few hours in booking.

Tell you what though: it felt good. It was worth the fine.
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Now, why would a chap leave his keys in the ignition? I mean, that's sort of a high risk activity, right?

My take on that is that your wife is not the first colleague he has had carnal congress with and that he leaves the key in the ignition in case he needs to make a quick getaway.

If so, he needs to be reported to the company human resources/personnel department ASAP.
Disregard what you hear about America Matt. Not all US towns are crime ridden. There are still towns and neighborhoods where people leave their cars unlocked and in some places they don't even lock the front doors at night. The little town I live in is like that.
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Disregard what you hear about America Matt. Not all US towns are crime ridden. There are still towns and neighborhoods where people leave their cars unlocked and in some places they don't even lock the front doors at night. The little town I live in is like that.
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Hell, a lot of folk's that I know will place their car keys either up underneath the front car seat, or up under the car mat, as they're either too damned lazy, or perhaps just strategic enough to not lock the vehicle up, when perhaps being in need of making a hastily planned exit!

In any event, if he was buck-ass naked when you threw his sorry ass out of your house, wouldn't it be fair to say that he probably would have left behind pertinent items like his jacket, trousers, belt, shirt, skivvies, socks, and shoes, right there at the house for your personal disposal, along with a pocketed car key-ring and a nice wallet full of ID's, credit cards, and cash? And even perhaps a cell phone, with lots of phone numbers in it, to boot?

But if for some reason that he didn't, then he must have undoubtedly shown up on the front door threshold, sans clothing, with only a big smile and an erection, greatly primed for a little action with some strange , and doing his best rendition of, say, a Singer Single-Headed "Sewing Machine!"
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I think we need to hear what has happened in the past several months to be able to provide advice. But, I am sorry you are here and have struggled with whether or not to post your story. There are a lot of great people here to help you. I agree that a WS bringing their AP to their own home is low. That would be tough to get over and especially seeing it.
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