Re: the guy with the cheating wife
After all these year I found my old thread, thank TAM.
Last night me and my old lady were talking about the ol'days and I informed her that it was 3 years ago, to the day that I confronted her.
She started writing down years and numbers and I instantly realized it was her time line. So I had to dig up my old thread to see if it matched, and it does.
I'm going to continue read if you want, but its the same crap different guy.... and I mean a really different guy!
By '05 she really took a turn for the worse. Whats interesting is by, '03 I stopped hitting her...I never really saw how close the years were between when I finished working on my anger management (AM) and when she went nut sh1t crazy. [I begame a nice guy out of guilt and she took that for a ride] and I continued to choose an unmarried mans life over a married mans life. Hell as long as I got mine 1st the who cares who gets my sloppy seconds
I think the AM was truely for my self. I wasn't raised that way, I know it was wrong. The rugsweeping we did on her 1st rodeo just brought out the worst in both of us. So even with the AM, staying out of County,street fighting, road rage, and slapping my wife, stopping, I still did not want the ball and chain and continued with the emotional abuse...even before her 1st, I was that way. Her 1st affair just made it easier to do the crap I did.
The MC was just ok, and very short lived. The 3rd IC my chick found works. I have been working on my self for a while, but my chick has alot to cover....rape in her teens and physically abusive husaband but the meds help alot. I think the current IC is a pot head, but it works for my old lady. Mrs. the-guy hates pills so the weed realy balances her out. She should have been smoking for years mabye I wouldn't be in this mess.LOL
I no longer sell my self to the Corp. but enjoy a smaller work enviorment......big business was fun and I loved the gaint contracts, but these day I enjoy coming home early, and some times spending the day in the pool or in the dungin with my submissive wife who in the end always wanted me. I know she no longer needs bandaids to heal the wounds her life gave her. I no longer need to find that kind of happiness with work.
These days thing are balance out, and no matter how hard I try to get rid of my old lady she sticks around. LOL
No matter how hard Mrs. the-guy tries to get rid of me her submissive nature keeps me around.
We have both learned alot after 23 years [this March] and we are both glad we stuck it out, now that we both have the tools to stop our unhealthy behaviors....God knows we have the capacity to pure it on but will I ever slap my wife in the face? No. Her butt? Yes. That how she rolls.
Will my wife screw around again? That is up to her. Its not my fault now. If she wants to go back down that road at 45yo, then I can easily let her go. And thats the thing both of us can easily let each other go with out blinking an eye if we ever go back to the way it was!
Some of you folks now me as a very helpful guy,and I thank you from deep in my heart for those kind words.
Once a wife beater not always a wife beater. Poeple change, poeple can stay out of jail, poeple can stop screwing aroun on there spouse's......but will they???????????
Shout, gotta run, forgot about Mrs. theguy tied in the basement. LOL
Last edited by the guy; 02-03-2013 at 11:20 AM.