hitrockbottom

A show and a Sign of trust toward my wifesee previous post if confused)Regaining Trust?

Well I gave her the Hemp Necklace.. Took me 4hours to make it. I attached a ring that I haven't taken off of my finger in 10yrs. It was the only thing I have which I am attached to that I don't want to lose.(besides my wife)

I called her in the room, sat her down and said "Baby, I messed up, I betrayed your trust, and I caused you to shut your emotions to me off because you were afraid to lose me(due to my HEAVY DRINKING). I have apologized to your numerous times, I have also poured my heart out to you. All I get in return is a brick wall. It seems as my words have no meaning to you, but I am sincere in what I say. So I tryed to show you with my actions. You said that it made you respect me more as a friend but hasn't done anything for your trust in me. So I made you this. I figured that if I show you how much trust and faith I have in you, then hopefully you can see how much I want to stay with you. I won't ever hurt you like this again, I can promise that. So I want you to have this. When you decide that you can start trusting me again and put your rings back on then you can give it back. Until then I am trusting you with the only thing precious to me besides you."

After that I kissed her on the forhead told her I loved her and left the room.

SHE WAS SPEACHLESS! She had tears in her eyes and you could tell that she didn't know how to react.

after a while she said you wear this, you never take it off. I said I know, but I have never been more sincere in anything I have said like I am now. And this is the only way I had left of showing you that. Keep it with you, if you don't wear it at least put where you can see it everyday, I want you to remember that I Love you and I don't want to lose you.

Amplexor

What a wonderful gesture. I hope she sees the commitment in it and all rings are returned to the proper fingers in the near future. Bless.

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Amp

Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.

hitrockbottom

So I'm following this up...She has a Chemistry test for one of her college classes today. I know she has been stressing it and stressing us.
Tomorrow we had a dinner date setup, but she also has a break from school...so I want to show her that I can put my wants aside if need be...here is the note I wrote for her..leaving it on her car:

babe,
Hey I know that you've had a busy week. I just wanted to thank you for taking some time out of it to spend with me(we actually talked a few days this week) I love you and i know you did well on your test. I went to Moes tonight. If you get out before 9 call me. If not there will be some Moes waiting at home for you.(one of her favorite restaurant's). Since you don't have class tomorrow night we can post pone the dinner if you just want to relax and hang out with your friends. I look forward to 4th and seeing them with you, as long as you haven't made plans already. It would mean the world to me to have you by my side friday night. I love you babe and I can't tell you how much you mean to me.

Love - "your hot keeper"(nick name that used to be in her phone)

P.s. Quit stressing Chemistry. You have a passion and a Goal so I know you will do good.

GAsoccerman

good job Rockbottom, keep moving forward.