Re: Hes cheating and I feel like a fool
Keep this in mind. Cheaters will often times rewrite the marriage history. If he says he has not been happy in the marriage and you didn't see it, he has a new perspective on things that are not grounded in reality. It is justification for moving on. Don't apply reason to his actions and statements.
If the girl or girls are illegal, then they are highly motivated to find a man here in the states.
This kind of cosmic dumbassery occupies a temporal plane of ineptitude and lack of reason so profound a Zen master could spend a lifetime meditating upon its philosophical consequences.