Why do men seem to have a much harder time emotionally dealing with the knowledge that their girlfriend and/or wife had a physical relationship with another guy and can't let it go and just move on and forgive and forget?
Oh and throw in how hard the chase was and acts denied to the husband in some cases.In all likelihood the wife has/had refused her husband sex or didn't offer it as often as the husband wanted. That means she gave away what her husband was trying to get. She chose the man over her husband.
This is a faulty judgment based on pure projection. Beyond the initial emotional devastation a man feels after his wife’s betrayal, men tend to revert to their more natural condition of applying logic. It’s in this application that a WW has little chance of recovery. As I’ve stated in earlier posts: there may be many emotionally-based reasons to stay with an adulterous woman, but anyone would be hard-pressed to find a logical reason to stay. Men don’t have a “much harder time emotionally,” they struggle with finding a single sensible reason to remain with such a person.Why do men seem to have a much harder time emotionally dealing with the knowledge that their girlfriend and/or wife had a physical relationship with another guy . . .
Right. The woeful wilderness cry of the deeply-wounded betrayer: “. . . let it go and just move on and forgive and forget.”. . . and can't let it go and just move on and forgive and forget?
By definition, a wife is no longer worth it the second she takes another man's penis into her vagina.Perhaps the wife is worth it. Mine was not.
She's the one who sees those actions in that light, which is why she doesn't want to do them with her provider and father of her children. That stuff goes in a different compartment.And yes, she did do stuff with that POS snake OM that she had denied me for years. Whether we should describe a person as being a slvt because of the acts doesn't wash with me, though the circumstances of those acts may justify the description. Immoral Lascivious Behavior - ILB? I just feel a bit hypocritical calling anyone a slvt.
: This does not necessarily mean th...orgive. But, I know I have forgiven Mrs. JA.
Sorry for not getting back sooner. I was traveling today back from a business trip and did not have much time between flights. And then when I got home I had a lovely dinner with Mrs. JA and then we well we celebrated Valentine's DayPhilat,
Actually, I think it would be very important to me to read what Mr. John Adams has to say about this. If someone can point me to where he has posted about telling Mrs. John Adams he is sorry for whatever he did and what those things are, and how he made or attempted to make amends, I'd really appreciate it. I think that's the perspective I need. I need to know what to ask forgiveness for. Do I ask for only those things which I know I did? Do I ask forgiveness for those things which she thinks I did? Do I just lump all of the problems onto my own shoulders and say, "Hey, x2, I know you were justified doing all those things to me. I deserved it. Will you forgive me, please? Now, can we hug and make friends? I'd like to take you out for an ice cream. Bring your lover. I'll buy him an ice cream, too." Yes, it's bitter. How do you get to the point where you can find out what the hell actually happened, so you know what to apologize for doing? I don't mind apologizing for the things I've done. I cannot apologize for things I did not do. That would make her feel better, but it will do nothing, but justify her and everyone else and make me take on more pain for things I didn't do. How do you get to the place where you can talk when there is no contact and no way to talk? How do you do that? Someone, please tell me the answers. That's exactly what I need. Talk, proof, then there can be forgiveness and moving on, forward, upward and peace for all.
:iagree:Men are trained from an early age to control their feelings. There is a huge downside to this...