Why do men seem to have a much harder time emotionally dealing with the knowledge that their girlfriend and/or wife had a physical relationship with another guy and can't let it go and just move on and forgive and forget?
By Philat
I think forgiveness means reaching a point where you no longer yearn for some form of repayment for the debt of past infidelity.
I agree with those who say that forgiveness is an action taken by the forgiver for his/her own benefit
And how does one make "damn sure" it never happens again? Sadly, that's just impossible, unless you have her chained up in the basement 24/7.I don't think men who R after Dday necessarily "tolerate " infidelity. Some take a very firm grip on their spouse and make damn sure their wives never give a repeat performance of cheating.
I am going to disagree and say that's strictly a personal preference. People were taught to believe, in my opinion mainly through religion, that everyone deserves forgiveness. Personally, I think it is a gift and should be given ONLY to someone you feel truly deserves the emotion. Sorry, I think there are people that don't. If you want to that's fine, if you don't that's fine as well. The problem is letting either decision eat you up inside. Nope, I've lived, heard and experienced too many examples of either decision eating someone up.Everyone deserves forgiveness.