Why do men seem to have a much harder time emotionally dealing with the knowledge that their girlfriend and/or wife had a physical relationship with another guy and can't let it go and just move on and forgive and forget?
Remorse is pretty good, too. But these definitions show why a simple "I'm sorry" usually doesn't cut it.REPENT verb (used without object)
1.
to feel sorry, self-reproachful, or contrite for past conduct; regret or be conscience-stricken about a past action, attitude, etc. (often followed by of ): He repented after his thoughtless act.
2.
to feel such sorrow for sin or fault as to be disposed to change one's life for the better; be penitent.
verb (used with object)
3.
to remember or regard with self-reproach or contrition: to repent one's injustice to another.
4.
to feel sorry for; regret: to repent an imprudent act.
sor·ry [sor-ee, sawr-ee] Show IPA
adjective, sor·ri·er, sor·ri·est.
1.
feeling regret, compunction, sympathy, pity, etc.: to be sorry to leave one's friends; to be sorry for a remark; to be sorry for someone in trouble.
2.
regrettable or deplorable; unfortunate; tragic: a sorry situation; to come to a sorry end.
re·morse [ri-mawrs] Show IPA
noun
1.
deep and painful regret for wrongdoing; compunction.
2.
Obsolete . pity; compassion.
what do you think?
I doubt you could ultimately determine that men have a harder time dealing with the knowledge...I would assume that women are just as devastated by this kind of betrayal...maybe woman are more accepting of it, and are more willing to try and put it behind them in attempts to salvage the relationship?Why do men seem to have a much harder time emotionally dealing with the knowledge that their girlfriend and/or wife had a physical relationship with another guy and can't let it go and just move on and forgive and forget?
And you could be absolutely correct. I think the problem with this thread is it seems as if there is an insinuation that a man is being unreasonable to feel this way in not wanting to forgive a woman that has given him a real gift of envisioning her being pleasured by another man. We just are the worst if we cannot forgive that, and what the lack of forgiveness is somehow worse than the physical affair itself.I doubt you could ultimately determine that men have a harder time dealing with the knowledge...I would assume that women are just as devastated by this kind of betrayal...maybe woman are more accepting of it, and are more willing to try and put it behind them in attempts to salvage the relationship?
Absolutely, life is a compromise and there are several shades of gray.....BEFORE someone made the choice to F someone else.(for some of us anyway)Hmm I disagree!
My parents who have been married for 52 Years (No Cheating)taught me that life has to be shades of grey as two people will never see eye to eye.
I was brought up to believe you marry once and you do your best to compromise, DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!
I have fully forgiven my cheating ex wife, and I have let go of all the anger. She tore my world apart and treated me cruelly. I left her, cut of all contact except for e-mails and one visit to see her in the county jail (she was arrested for a drug charge).
I hope my ex comes out of her drug addiction, gets the help she needs and cleans up her life. I truly want her to be safe and happy. I don't wish any ill-will on her. Why? Because life is too damn short for me to carry all that hate around.
But just because I forgive her does not mean I have to keep her in my life.