Re: Found out wife cheated
I fully agree with Amplexor.
You do not clear a lifetime of baggage in 3 sessions, or even 3 months of sessions for that matter. There is a distinct difference between a person who wants to deal with, and address an issue, versus someone whose goal is to avoid dealing with it, and sweep it under the rug - because the issue is substantial, difficult and painful. I can't say which category your wife falls into. If she is willing to continue therapy - on her own, or with you, she is at least demonstrating that she values herself, and the relationship she shares with you.
That said, what happened to her is terrible, but what she did to you is equally terrible.
If in your heart, you believe that this thing is only going to continue eating away at your personal dignity, self-respect, and the bond with your wife, again as Amplexor stated, you need to be talking to someone about addressing those concerns, one way or another.