09-22-2010, 08:52 AM
Join Date: Apr 2010
| | Re: The OW is moving back to the area!
Originally Posted by notreadytoquit
I don't know your previous posts but if she is married make sure you get in touch with her husband and stay in touch in case you notice suspicious behaviour. And put a keylogger where you can on the computer(s) if you think you cannot still trust him completely. I regret for not contacting the OW H in my case as I would have found some other valuable information that might have disclosed the affair even sooner and potentially could have saved my marriage.
Not a bad, yet painfully awkward idea. The husband has the same mindset that I do... that my husband and his wife dont have any need to see each other, especially given the past sexual stuff. Actually, my husband and his wife used to talk about us being possessive and jealous instead of seeing that we saw no reason for them to see each other anymore...otherwise they should have just stayed together and let us go.
I cant contact him directly. But, if we met out socially, I could quietly say something. She may likely want us all to get together to "prove" that they can get together and its nothing. Looks can be decieving, and if they try to hard to pretend to be friends... anyway, I dont think we will ever trust them together even through email (a good part of their relationship was being "pen pals" and sharing all the details of everything going on in their lives... including details that they werent sharing with us, their spouses).
Thanks for the tip!