Originally Posted by Homemaker_Numero_Uno View Post
Really? He got a blow job on the way home and he used a condom for a blow job? That sounds like overkill, if anyone has either been with or been a prostitute, can we have some input here as to whether a condom is used with a blow job? Also, why would he bring it home? Why would he leave it in the middle of the floor?
Yes, I have been with hookers before and responsible, professional ones do use condoms for blowjobs. Why or how it ended up on the floor is anyone's guess.
No doubt I am going to get hammered for this but I will say that I think that going to a prostitute, for a man or a woman, is a practical solution that is designed to cause minimum damage to the family whilst dealing with a genuine need.
Obviously it would be better if you didn't do it, but some of us have a relentless drive, for which I know of no acceptable medical solution, and this is the least risky solution. Trying to ignore it leaves you at risk of a real affair, with emotional attachments. With an escort there is no emotional connection (I think of it as assisted masturbation) so your husband will feel like he has not actually been 'unfaithful'.
Also, contrary to popular belief, not all prostitution is exploitative. No doubt 99% of prostitutes would rather not do it, but you could probably say the same for plumbers. If you choose carefully you can visit professional, independent escorts who are not trafficked or controlled by a pimp. If you are polite and respectful with them then there is no exploitation in my mind.
There it is. I am sorry your husband did this and it must hurt, but I believe it is a better option than having a 'real' affair. If my wife had an uncontrollable drive that I could not satisfy I would prefer she hired a disinterested professional escort than risked having an affair by ignoring it.