It's been almost 5 months since I caught my wife in the act with the OM. We were in limbo as to where our relationship was going. I wanted to move past it all, she was still 'confused'. It got to the point where I just played confident and she perhaps realized she made a mistake. She's still in denial, I believe. She hasn't really fessed up to her mistakes. I have to mine and I fell 'clean'.
This last week has been a bit of a rollercoaster. I don't think in details about the night I caught them, just little flashes come and go. We're in a place now where family is next on the things to do. Her PMS came and I have been less than patient this month. On the outside I've maintained a good attitude.
Today, after coming home from a work dinner, my wife asleep in the bedroom, I went to the kitchen to have a couple glasses of water before bed. Her ipod touch was on, so I turned it off (It was playing music.) I saw the photo button and thought "I wonder if she has any pictures...???"
Turns out, she has a couple of pictures of him, mixed in with a bunch of pictures. They are at a friends wedding, he's not alone in any of the pictures. Her pictures folder had a bunch of other random stuff...but I though "If I were caught and wanted to get 'clean' I would destroy ANYTHING that linked me to the OP." She apparently didn't feel the need or hasn't realized. I'm being optimistic in think she probably hasn't gone through her pictures folder.
So...here I am upset. I figured this: Some way bring up the idea of showing pictures on the itouch. If she does so without thought of what might be on her itouch I would assume she just didn't remember she had those pictures. If she DOESN'T want to show me (Which is just not in her character) I know she's got them on there for a reason. She might back them up on her Mac. That's when I might have to snoop around her Mac, find the pictures and then see...
It all seems a bit 'highschoolish'....why do I have to play games? I guess I don't, I could just ask...but that would mean taking her word for it and I'm not in that place yet. Those photos certainly sent my feelings in the opposite direction...
This last week has been a bit of a rollercoaster. I don't think in details about the night I caught them, just little flashes come and go. We're in a place now where family is next on the things to do. Her PMS came and I have been less than patient this month. On the outside I've maintained a good attitude.
Today, after coming home from a work dinner, my wife asleep in the bedroom, I went to the kitchen to have a couple glasses of water before bed. Her ipod touch was on, so I turned it off (It was playing music.) I saw the photo button and thought "I wonder if she has any pictures...???"
Turns out, she has a couple of pictures of him, mixed in with a bunch of pictures. They are at a friends wedding, he's not alone in any of the pictures. Her pictures folder had a bunch of other random stuff...but I though "If I were caught and wanted to get 'clean' I would destroy ANYTHING that linked me to the OP." She apparently didn't feel the need or hasn't realized. I'm being optimistic in think she probably hasn't gone through her pictures folder.
So...here I am upset. I figured this: Some way bring up the idea of showing pictures on the itouch. If she does so without thought of what might be on her itouch I would assume she just didn't remember she had those pictures. If she DOESN'T want to show me (Which is just not in her character) I know she's got them on there for a reason. She might back them up on her Mac. That's when I might have to snoop around her Mac, find the pictures and then see...
It all seems a bit 'highschoolish'....why do I have to play games? I guess I don't, I could just ask...but that would mean taking her word for it and I'm not in that place yet. Those photos certainly sent my feelings in the opposite direction...