Talking or Cybersex
My husband and I have been married 4 years tomorrow in fact and we came home after partying saturday night, I went to the loo, had a shower and he went to bed, i came in, he had fallen asleep with his phone on his chest, i picked it up and checked to make sure it wasn't important what he had been doing (we own a business and are on 24 hour call). When i opened it there was a chat page - i didn't read it all (I regret that now) but all i could see was a photo of a woman talking about rubbing my husbands **** and a photo of him next to a name that isn't his.
Needless to say I lost my ****, I woke him up then threw the phone in the loo. He is telling me that he has felt problems in our marriage for at least two years and joined a site - like this one!! to talk to people and he felt most comfortable talking to women and this woman was divorced from her abusive husband and they have been talking (not sure if just through chat or even on the phone/skype, who knows!) to her and it's not his fault if she misconstrued their talks and 'fell' for him.
How am I ever supposed to believe him - for all i know he has a whole second 'online' life and how can I ever ever trust him again. He says cybersex isn't cheating anyway. I feel that it is - we are pretty adventurous sexually and I would have been okay being involved in swinging chat but this feel devious and totally repulsive.
With our anniversary tomorrow I am really wondering what to do, because I want the truth so I know where I stand and can make an informed decision as to what needs to happen next, but I am worried, he'll just keep lying - he is the consummate sales man/lying man.