10-20-2010, 11:44 AM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: any 'not in love with you anymore' success stories?
Originally Posted by Indy Nial
She has given up booze and says the attraction to the OM is fading and that she wants our marriage to work.
She still says she needs space, isn't in love with me and not sure she can be happy with me.
Do I hang in there hoping that she will come around or is it done?
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Only you can decide.
She has given up booze. That's good. Will she stay off it, that's another question. Times will get hard again. Will she go back to her booze or will you be her support.
What does she need space for? If she isn't in love with you, then why would you want to be with her. Why not be with someone who IS in love with you. She doesn't know if she can be happy with you? You have to ask why: Are there things you are doing or not doing causing her to feel this way. If there are, address them. If you aren't sure, talk with your wife, ask her why she can't be happy, and if she gives you the reasons, see if those are changes you are willing to make to hold onto this person.
With alcohol in the mix, I'm sure it becomes more complicated. Keep her on track with AA or a good program, keep her away from OM (Make that the number 1 rule). Work on bettering yourself. In the end, you may lose her but you'll walk away a better man.