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Old 11-02-2010, 01:50 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Hello everybody, this is my first post. My husband and I have been married for 8 years and have 3 year old twins. We are 30 and 32. I thought that my life was perfect- we get along great, we work well together handling everything from finances to maintaining our house to parenting, and have a great sex life. I have worked really hard to get into shape after having twins (very difficult!) and think that I look great! Then I started noticing he was acting weird about 8 months ago. I asked him what was wrong, and after a few weeks he told me that he did not love me anymore, that he looked at me as a friend, he was unhappy, we got married too young, and that our marriage was not enough to keep him happy for the rest of his life. I was so stunned and hurt that I actually threw up and spent the whole night sobbing- I was not even able to go to work the next day. I tried talking to him, I asked if we could go to counseling, if we could go to a marriage seminar, anything! He told me I am a great person and his best friend, but that the love was just gone. I have tried to act ok for my children but I have been in a deep depression since then. Well, earlier last month I caught him having an affair. It turns out that this was the reason he had said all of these things to me. He admitted everything, telling me that he works with this woman, and they started as friends, and then it turned into more. He let me go through his phone and his email, and I saw that they actually talked about me and he said horrible things about me to her. I would not have thought it was possible for me to hurt any more than I had been, but at that point I felt like my kids were the only reason I even had for living. So now that he has been caught, he dumped the other woman and said that he loves me, and he has alot to think about, but that he wants it to work for us. I have been trying to forgive him, but I am suspicious of everything he does and I have gone through his phone several times. he blew up at me and said if I keep throwing this in his face or if I cant trust him that he is gone- he does not want a relationship like that. How can he turn this around on me? How does anyone forgive their spouse after a betrayal like that, and how can I possibly trust him again? I really do love him, and I want to stay together for our children, but part of me hates him. The worst is that he actually talked about me and my children to this woman, and that he called her "baby" and "sweetie" and told her he loved her. Sometimes when I look at him I want him back so badly, and other times he makes me sick! I am hoping someone who has been through this can give me some insight. i have not told anyone except for my brother about this, I am so ashamed!
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I am so sorry to hear of your pain. My H also had an affair, and we are now a year out from when I found out. Things are much better, so there is hope honey.

I know why you feel ashamed, but you have to realize that you have nothing to be ashamed of. Your husband is the one who should feel ashamed, it was his choice to engage in an affair.

Affaircare, Turnera and Tanelornpete all have some wonderful advice on how to get through this stuff, so I will just scratch the surface.

His blowing up on you about checking his phone and telling you that if you can't get over it it won't work is purely his guilt coming through. He doesn't want to have to think about what he did, and you doing that makes him think about it. Of course you are going to check, you just had your world shattered! I think the best thing in your scenario would to do what I did. I made a list of things I needed from my husband before I would agree to stay and work it out. I wanted all his passwords, email accts, facebook stuff, cell phone stuff. I can check them anytime, anyplace. He has the same access to mine only because I thought it was fair and have nothing to hide anyway. I talked about my boundaries. No meeting with women, no having women in his truck PERIOD, no socializing with women without me present and if it ever happened again, I am gone. There were more, but my memory is horrible today.

Make your list of what you need from him and sit down and talk about it. Tell him you NEED these things and that he has to earn back your trust, it isn't just automatically given to him. Yes, you will question him sometimes, yes you will struggle to believe him. His job is to make sure he isn't doing anything that could cause you to lose any more trust in him.

Is he still working with the woman he had the affair with??
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Im so sorry for what you both are going through. I have been on both sides and both suck. Being cheated on I thought was the worst part, but it was actually how husband treated me for a year and a half after he got discovered which was the worst. If it werent for kids, I would have left... he was that violent and quite frankly delusional in his perceptions (bc he was still in denial and he framed me as the enemy and him as the victim in anything that happened during that year and a half). It was so confusing and hurtful. During all that, I was so rejected and tired of him purposely not having sex with me I went and found someone who would. So, I ended up having an affair as well. NOT that I recommend it. I see why I felt like doing that, but still cant believe I felt that far dejected that I went against a core value of mine like that.

He will yell, point fingers, blame you. He may sulk, withdraw and he may become sexual again without warning. What helped me after all this was to accept that I have no control over another person's actions and choices. The only person who I have influence over is myself and my emotions and my actions. You can grieve the loss of what you felt was an amazing relationship and accept what it has become, but dont put that burden onto him. Do not expect him to make it up to you, do not expect him to make ammends. What you can do is tell him what you are willing to live with and what you arent. If you need to have access to his email for a while or his phone, state it calmly, like a business request. Be aware that as you are reading that he can just as easily open up another account somewhere else. You can accept his word that he is not in contact with her, but you also have to accept that you have to let go of completely trusting him for a long time. Dont push it too quickly either.

In regards to the bad mouthing... mine did that too. They both compared their spouses. That was the second most hurtful part of the affair, the first was that he defended her and his actions over our marriage.

Of course he called her baby and sweetie... it all stinks! But you have to take responsibility for yourself, know what you can live with and cannot and be clear and in control of your emotions. The more in control you remain, the safer he will feel coming back to the marriage emotionally.

Im not going to tell you that you can do this, bc I dont know you and your personality and limitations, but I will say it can be done.
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Hi - I am so sorry you are facing this. You are not alone, though, and you've come to a great place.

First thing I want to point out is a bit of reassurance - your situation is not unique, many people have faced the same thing, and you can find a great deal of sympathy and support right here on these pages from people who face the same pain.

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i have not told anyone except for my brother about this, I am so ashamed!
Here's a place you can start: ask yourself, why are you ashamed? What did you do wrong? Is it really valid for a person who has been hurt deeply by someone else to feel ashamed because they got hurt? Isn't that taking responsibility for the wrong thing?

Concentrate on this: you feel hurt, betrayed, angry, sad, confused...any number of things. But please work past feeling ashamed for the behavior of someone else. What has happened is not your fault. Your husband made this choice. If anyone should feel ashamed, it is he - not you!

Also, be glad he says he has dropped the other woman and work on the marriage - it leaves you with the option - do you want to work on this marriage or not? If he is serious, you have a great deal of hope.

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I have been trying to forgive him, but I am suspicious of everything he does and I have gone through his phone several times
First, keep in mind that forgiveness is something you grant. It is a deliberate decision you make, and isn't dependent upon the other person.

On the other hand, it is wise to remain skeptical about his behavior, and it is reasonable for him to be accountable to you for a while to an extreme degree. Until he proves himself to you, he needs to work hard to match his actions with his words. He just spent time lying, maligning and in every way doing his best to break his commitment to you. He is the one responsible for repairing that.

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he blew up at me and said if I keep throwing this in his face or if I cant trust him that he is gone- he does not want a relationship like that. How can he turn this around on me?
First, people almost never want to be responsible for their own actions. It is human nature to blame someone else (makes life more comfortable).

Second, take this as a red flag. If he is truly willing to work on the marriage, he will be willing to do what it takes, including giving you reason to trust that he is being honest with you.

But this is a red flag: it is quite common for someone who has been 'busted' to move quickly into 'damage repair' mode - do what it takes to make things run more smoothly. At the same time, cheating spouses often keep the affair going - they simply move it farther underground. What they want is for their spouse at home to remain there as a 'backup' in case things don't work. Or, they get part of what they feel they need from their lover, part from their spouse. In that case the threat to losing some of getting their needs met means they have to move quickly to get things back on course - even 'working on the marriage' if that seems the best option.

Unless it is their only willing choice, it most likely will not work.

So be very wary of the business of turning it around on you. He is the one that cheated, he is the one that must take responsibility. And if he wants you to trust that he is being open and honest, he must be that way - and prove it by allowing you to verify what he says.

Don't be swayed by his threats. He says he is 'gone' if you don't back away from wanting him to be open and honest. Fine! Tell him "I agree - you are gone if you are not willing to prove your honesty." You don't want a relationship without it, do you?

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How does anyone forgive their spouse after a betrayal like that, and how can I possibly trust him again?
Again, keep in mind that forgiveness is something you grant - and if you do so, you must abide by your commitment - which means that if you do decide to forgive, you are making a life long decision. As for trusting him - keep this in mind: you CAN trust him. Unfortunately, you trust him right now to lie, get angry, deflect and in other ways cheat and deceive you. The issue is not trust but what you trust him to do.

And this won't change until you see, over a period of time, that his actions match his words. What he speaks is not as important as what he does. When those two things match up (and they are aimed at your marriage, rather than away from it) - then you are on the right road.
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Old 11-02-2010, 02:30 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Oh also, I cant imagine ever trusting my husband again. The affair was one part but the year and a half of attack after that (also porn and live jasmin etc during all that time he was refusing to have sex when I asked and he avoided it for weeks/month at a time knowing I have a high sex drive). I let go of ever trusting him again. SO I know how you feel. People say it will come back, maybe for you it will.
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It really saddens me to know that so many of you have gone through the same thing, but it does also give me some encouragement to hear that things can work out. The worst part is that he still works with this woman. He makes significantly more money that I do, and with the job marker the way it is, and having two children to support, he really cannot afford to quit his job. So I have the daily fear that they are talking or seeing each other at work, or going to lunch, etc. I also have no access to his work email (nor can he allow me access) so I just have to take his work for it that they are no longer in contact. He seems to think that they can one day be friends again, which I am COMPLETELY against, obviously. I have been acting like everything is okay, because I still have to work, and have to be there for my kids, but inside I am truly a wreck. He also does not want to talk about any of this and gets very angry with me when I try to. He wants to act like everything is fine, still sleep in the same bed, still have sex, just like we are okay, when this is killing me. He says he loves me, but is I had not caught him, I wonder if this affair would still be going on. And yes, he has defended her when I have said that she is a horrible person. It made me want to throw up to hear him defend her. Instead of getting better, it seems to be getting worse for me every day!
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I think now is the time to have a serious boundary and expectation talk. What you will and will not live with, and what you need from him to stay in this marriage.

It is not unreasonable for you to want to talk about the affair. You will need it to reach closure, and he will need to understand that. There are several places where you can direct him that will tell him the things he should expect you to need after an affair. And the first one is transparency.

I am hoping Tanelornpete will chime in here any time and give you some of his wonderful advice. They truly helped me get through my time and I have every faith they can help you too.

Do you know what you need to stay in your marriage? What you need from HIM to stay??
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It sucks, it hurts, there is life beyond your cheating spouse. It is tough to imagine right now but you are going to figure this out. Study this site carefully as it has more useful information than you are going to get anywhere right now. My d-day was almost 6 months ago. I feel ok and we are doing ok. I learned things I never knew about myself and life itself. And that there is a life after you're been betrayed and deceived by the one you handed your whole being too years ago!

It took me 7 days to eat again! The 7th day I woke (It may have been 6 days) and decided that it was time to prepare for life without 'cheater'. I ate 2 meals that day and moved on to what I like to call 'business mode' with my partner. The only discussions I had with her were rational friendly type talks about how life was going to work without us being together. How we were going to handle the kids, divorce, how many and what days we would have the kids, etc....It wasn't long after that, when I picked myself up and began to be strong for myself and my kids, that she began to break out of that 'fog' and came back to reality.
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Wow, I just read through your entire post! I cannot believe how my husband has been acting exactly like your wife, right down to the excuses he would use (he loves me but is not in love with me, its my fault, etc.) he even tried to tell me it was all just an emotional affair (right like he stayed the night at her house at least 10 times, and nothing happened, it may have taken me a while to catch on but I am NOT stupid). And with him too, his entire personality changed when he started with this girl, I cannot even explain it! He went from my loving husband to a cold, selfish stranger. I too am thinking I need to get checked for STDs by my doctor, and I cannot imagine letting him touch me again. I am glad to hear that your situation has improved. I think if we did not have children I would have walked away by now, but it is good to hear that there is still a possibilty of reconciliation. After everything, I still love him very much. I am so glad I found this site, I would not have known where to go for advice otherwise! Like I said it is sad that so many people have been through this, but so helpful to talk to others who know exactly how I feel.

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It sucks, it hurts, there is life beyond your cheating spouse. It is tough to imagine right now but you are going to figure this out. Study this site carefully as it has more useful information than you are going to get anywhere right now. My d-day was almost 6 months ago. I feel ok and we are doing ok. I learned things I never knew about myself and life itself. And that there is a life after you're been betrayed and deceived by the one you handed your whole being too years ago!

It took me 7 days to eat again! The 7th day I woke (It may have been 6 days) and decided that it was time to prepare for life without 'cheater'. I ate 2 meals that day and moved on to what I like to call 'business mode' with my partner. The only discussions I had with her were rational friendly type talks about how life was going to work without us being together. How we were going to handle the kids, divorce, how many and what days we would have the kids, etc....It wasn't long after that, when I picked myself up and began to be strong for myself and my kids, that she began to break out of that 'fog' and came back to reality.
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Oh and I am not sure if mentioned this but this girl is TWENTY YEARS OLD. Disgusting, right?
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I've been kind of waiting for you to let us know what your decision was (regarding if you intended to work on the marriage or not). However, you bring up some really important things - don't really want to let those go too far:

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The worst part is that he still works with this woman.
Our advice is very simple: if he wishes to work on his marriage, either he, or Jezebel will have to leave the job. Yes, there are objections - bad economy, need the money, etc...

Consider this: if he lost his job in some other way what would happen? Would he not have to find another? Part of the consequences of cheating involves the hardship it creates.

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So I have the daily fear that they are talking or seeing each other at work, or going to lunch, etc. I also have no access to his work email (nor can he allow me access) so I just have to take his work for it that they are no longer in contact.
No, you do NOT have to take his word for it. This is part of the problem with staying where he is, in constant contact with this woman. It is why the concept of No Contact involves leaving the job.

Two things to consider:

1) You will always have this fear, as long as he is around her. The fact that it is insulated from you is one of the biggest impediments to his being able to build up a reputation (in your eyes) of honesty. Even the hint of it is damaging to you.

2) By remaining near this other woman, your husband is damaging his ability to recover and return to your marriage. In his 'foggy' mind, he compares you to her. Even if he is not actively pursuing a relationship with her, her physical presence will always refresh the comparisons he was making between the two of you. The affair is going on because she offers something he thinks he needs (or actually does need). He gets this need filled by her. To the extent that THAT need is filled by her, to that extent, he doesn't want you around.

And if, even in the middle of recovery, some setback occurs - he will see her, and think about how SHE didn't do whatever YOU did to him (imagined or not.)

The only avenue out of this is for him to arrange complete and total, permanent No Contact.

Your fear is justified. They ARE seeing each other at work - even if only for a few seconds at a time...

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He seems to think that they can one day be friends again, which I am COMPLETELY against, obviously.
You're right - they can never be friends again. That will have to end that if he wants to remain your husband. A question to ask: why would you husband WANT a 'friend' who is willing to destroy his marriage?

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I have been acting like everything is okay, because I still have to work, and have to be there for my kids, but inside I am truly a wreck.
It depends on what you mean by 'acting like everything is ok'. Things are NOT ok, and keeping that in mind and out in the open is a very strong incentive for him to change. If, on the other hand, you mean exploding in emotional outbursts at your children, etc. then - you are right to maintain your composure. My advice (which is pretty hard to follow) is to approach this from a rational rather than an emotional viewpoint. You'll always have your emotions: they tell you something is amiss - but you can make the decision, and then choose the actions accordingly - which express to your husband that his behavior at this time is NOT acceptable, and that things need to change.

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He also does not want to talk about any of this and gets very angry with me when I try to. He wants to act like everything is fine, still sleep in the same bed, still have sex, just like we are okay, when this is killing me.
No one wants to talk about uncomfortable things. People don't want to face the pain of surgery either. I can imagine that you probably didn't want to go through the hassles of childbirth: but the end results far outweigh the temporary troubles, eh?

This is where you will have to be very clear about your boundaries. For the next couple of days, start thinking about boundaries unceasingly. Don't discuss this with your husband until you have determined what you can and cannot put up with - and then discuss them with him. Allow him the choice to accept them, or not - and be ready to keep your boundaries when they are challenged. I'll see if AC can free up some time to write a little on that for you - she explains it so well. If not, you'll have to put up with my dense language - or, someone else can do it for us!

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The key to getting through this is dependent upon thinking more clearly than you ever have before. It means making sure that everything is clearly defined and understood. The reason I say this is because we are SO USED to reacting to whatever happens to us in life that we almost cripple ourselves when it comes time to be deliberate.

Because I beleive that so strongly, I do weird things in my posts like point out that trust isn't the issue: what you trust someone to DO is. Also, in the case of your quote here:

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He says he loves me, but is I had not caught him, I wonder if this affair would still be going on. And yes, he has defended her when I have said that she is a horrible person. It made me want to throw up to hear him defend her.
We are so used to thinking of love as some sort of emotion - actually, it is not. Affection, lust, desire, appreciation, etc., are emotions. Love is ACTION. It is the action of treating someone in a way that respects and honors them. It is the action of doing what is best for that person.

So...your husband says he loves you....but gets angry if this other woman (the one that is willing to sleep with a married man) gets some negative feedback. HE says he loves you: is he treating you with respect and honor? Is he doing what is best for you? Or, is it more likely that he is doing those things for himself - and instead, finds things about you that he appreciates (stuff you do that helps him?) or maybe desires sex with you?

If he truly loved you, he would be willing to work on the marriage. Why? Because working on the marriage IS loving you.
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I am so sorry you are going thru this. I can imagine how painful this is for you. I have gone through something very similar to this, although I was on the other side. I fell in love with a married man. We work together, we became friends after I separated from my verbally and mentally abusive husband of 14 year and he and I became friends. He was very supportive to me for several months and one day we started to realize we had feelings for one another and he was in a similar marriage with a controlling wife who treated him like a child. During one of her outbursts of yelling at him and snapping her fingers at me, he proclaimed, I don't love you anymore! She asked him to move out two days later. After researching his phone bill, noticed there were several texts going back and fourth between he and I during the time we were just friends, supporting each other through our miserable marriages. What she found was innocent. However, by the time she found it, we had already been talking about him leaving her and us starting a life together. He admitted to her that I was the love of his life and we are meant to be. She was very angry. She reached out to me several times, to my ex-husband, went through my medical records because she was a nurse where i went and started saying horrible things about me to my co-workers. It was ugly. She finally guilted him enough with the kids, that he left me to try with her. The day he went back, he said he never should have done it. It was miserable. We continued talking everyday. Telling me he loved me before he walked into their first counseling session together. Thinking no way is she going to be able to handle this and neither would he. This "any day" went on for 8 months, before he finally left again. We were happy together again...we stayed in contact during this entire process. Four months later, his daughter started to have issues and blamed baby brother for mommy and daddy splitting up, so that scared him and he went back for awhile to make her feel better...that was 8 months ago. They live in the same house, he's still in love with me, we still work together. She no longer asks to look at his phone. But when she was, he was very descreet about it...i knew never to email or text or call after a certain time and if i wasn't allowed to respond, he would say RS (radio silent). He was trapped, every time he would try to get out she would start manipulating him again about money, the kids and guilting him...he just kept staying. He's been miserable. They have no marriage. They fight about everything, always have, she doesn't ask about me anymore, he thinks for fear he will tell her yes i'm still in love with her. They do separate things with the kids, live on opposite sides of the house.
My point is...don't trust your husband. If he was really sorry and was really done with the affair, he would make it known to you you have nothing to fear. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. They are finally filing for divorce, the fighting in front of the kids has gotten so out of hand and he's tired of her threats and living this life. Be careful. I don't wish this on anyone. I am not the kind of person who would have ever done this, but something happened that was beyond our control.
Sweetie, if you are questioning anything at all, you should be, men are wimps and will go with whatever they can get away with, unfortunately. My situation is not the norm, my guy and I are truly in love and it is known to everyone we work with, it's not a secret our relationship or that he and his wife are separated and have been for the past year, but he still keeps details from her or rather doesn't volunteer info. Be careful. Feel free to contact me offline if you want to know some of the sneeky stuff a cheating spouse will do to look like he's doing nothing. I'm telling you right now, if I didn't work with my guy, we wouldn't still be together, but seeing each other every day, makes it impossible for us.

Good luck! You deserve to be happy, don't stay just because you think you are supposed to. I left a husband and I have 4 kids and my life is better than it ever was with him and my relationship with my children is a billion times better!
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