09-16-2008, 07:33 PM
Join Date: Jul 2008
| | Re: My wife confessed her love for another.
Things are still pretty much up in the air right now. The other day, I noticed my wife acting a little strange and asked her to sit down with me and talk for awhile.
I asked her what was on her mind. She said, "I'm still not sure about what I want."...meaning our relationship. I asked her if she felt that I was holding up my end of the bargain. She stated that I had been doing wonderful. So, I had to ask what else could be bothering her.
My wife told me that she thought if she obtained her degree she would be happy; that if she married, she would be happy; that if she had children she would be happy; that if her husband would change, she would be happy...
All of the things that she thought would make her happy, have fallen short of her goals for happiness.
So, without asking her what makes her happy, I told her what makes me happy. I said, "The smell of fresh-baked, chocolate chip cookies, my son's expression after catching his first fish, my daughter bringing me a glass of lemonade after a couple of hours yard work in the afternoon sun."
I told her that, for me, happiness comes in small chunks and wasn't something that was turned on like electricity 24/7.
After I told her what made me happy, I then asked her what makes her happy. She was silent for a long time then confessed she genuinely didn't know what makes her happy.
She also made a short mention of not feeling successful in her life. Of course, I was stunned with her statement of not being able to identify anything that made her happy for a least a split second.
Anyone want to take a stab at this?