So an update on my story, my fiancee and I have been doing so good and had been happy for the past year, got our rings and set a new date for our wedding...now, we both have good jobs, we live confortable but do not own a home so we been talking for a while about saving money, moving to a smaller place and cheaper rent to save money, so about a month ago she wanted to get a new job and applied for one and I was ok with it...until I found out that the OM works there, so I told her how I felt about it and that she needed to look elsewhere, she was ok with it but she went behing my back and pushed for the position and even when to an interview without telling me, and just kept saying to me that she wasn't going to take the job, she got offered the job and I told her about my trust issues and that working with someone she cheated on me with will hurt our relationship and more than likelly end it, she said she wasn't going to take it and would turn it down but I just found out that she went to the office and got a work contract and is taking the job...knowing that it would hurt me for her to work with the OM and that this will end our relationship she still taking the job...I don't know what to make of this...am I wrong?? Posted via Mobile Device
The affairs never stopped. She learnt your methods and hid them better. First thing, stop the marriage, tell her all you know bout her affairs, that she isn't that clever and dump her. The cheating won't stop after the marriage either. Your fiance is a broken women. She will make the rest of your life miserable.
So an update on my story, my fiancee and I have been doing so good and had been happy for the past year, got our rings and set a new date for our wedding...now, we both have good jobs, we live confortable but do not own a home so we been talking for a while about saving money, moving to a smaller place and cheaper rent to save money, so about a month ago she wanted to get a new job and applied for one and I was ok with it...until I found out that the OM works there, so I told her how I felt about it and that she needed to look elsewhere, she was ok with it but she went behing my back and pushed for the position and even when to an interview without telling me, and just kept saying to me that she wasn't going to take the job, she got offered the job and I told her about my trust issues and that working with someone she cheated on me with will hurt our relationship and more than likelly end it, she said she wasn't going to take it and would turn it down but I just found out that she went to the office and got a work contract and is taking the job...knowing that it would hurt me for her to work with the OM and that this will end our relationship she still taking the job...I don't know what to make of this...am I wrong?? Posted via Mobile Device
You still belive that she care for your feelings...
work with the OM and that this will end our relationship...REALLY? You have good humor sense.......
am I wrong?? Yes you are wrong, why you want to disturb the happiness and excitement she have with OM, your begging make her annoyed, stop that.
Which part of the previous advice you got from here made you the perfect doormat? I didn't see any one advising you to become a better doormat, but all advised you to man up and take control of your life, which you couldnt. Now what more should we say? Do you want us to repeat the same?
Some people will never learn the lessons...............
Mor... havent you been betrayed long enough?? your soon to be wife has walked all over you cause you have allowed it. When is enough going to be enough?
So an update on my story, my fiancee and I have been doing so good and had been happy for the past year, got our rings and set a new date for our wedding...now, we both have good jobs, we live confortable but do not own a home so we been talking for a while about saving money, moving to a smaller place and cheaper rent to save money, so about a month ago she wanted to get a new job and applied for one and I was ok with it...until I found out that the OM works there, so I told her how I felt about it and that she needed to look elsewhere, she was ok with it but she went behing my back and pushed for the position and even when to an interview without telling me, and just kept saying to me that she wasn't going to take the job, she got offered the job and I told her about my trust issues and that working with someone she cheated on me with will hurt our relationship and more than likelly end it, she said she wasn't going to take it and would turn it down but I just found out that she went to the office and got a work contract and is taking the job...knowing that it would hurt me for her to work with the OM and that this will end our relationship she still taking the job...I don't know what to make of this...am I wrong?? Posted via Mobile Device
Definition of insanity doing the same things over and over and expecting different results. Re-read your whole thread. Nothing else needs to be said.
Sounds like you have a open relationship and she wants to stay close to her boyfriend at work. Its obvious she has no respect for you by still taking the job so what are you going to do when she tells you she won't give up the job(really means the OM/boyfriend/Lover)?? Will you back down or keep you head in the sand??
It is pretty obvious that she has played you for a total fool. Get tested for STD's.
Get a lawyer to talk about child support and visitation.
The affair never stopped.
She has no respect for you whatsoever. If you do not respect yourself then who will? How much humiliation and disrespect are you willing to endure?
Sorry to say it but you have wasted the last couple of years with her. She has now obviously made her choice and it isn't you.
Each step here she has lied right to your face. She's done it for years, and after EACH cheating affair she has continued to lie, and you've stayed with her. You have shown her no spine and just accepted her back.
She is a serial cheater. She likely got the job connect from the OM because the affair never stopped. She now I think expects you to roll over and just get over it an be a good little boy and let her be with her true love at work.
Seriously - there is only two ways this plays out: Either you continue to be a doormat and she continues in the affair OR you actually call her out and end the relationship.
You told her repeatedly no to take it - she continued to pursue it, to interview, to take it. Come on - Is that someone you can be with and trust?
Is that someone who actually respects you in anyway?
I don't think she is even capable of telling you the truth to you on anything.
She as was said above, probably has been in her 1 or 2 A's all along----just deeply underground
I hope you don't really think she loves you, as she defies you every step of the way---Is that what you would call love
It is obvious she defied you, and went thru the whole process with the new jub, cuz her lover was helping her, and making sure he got what HE WANTED FROM HER, continued OPEN CONTACT.
She may be bedding down with you, and using your money---but she has others that she also loves, and very possibly she loves them more than you
Do you enjoy being a parole officer, do you enjoy the misery, do you enjoy sharing this woman you supposedly love
YOU KNOW WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE-----you don't need us to tell you---YOU HAVE KNOWN ALL ALONG!!!!!!!
Original poster, listen to these folks, although they didn't have to laugh at you, but please do not marry this woman. She is a cheat and a liar right to your face.
She cares less for you than you have presumed--close to zero.
Stop being used.
You are fortunate in that you can now just walk away, lick your wounds and start over.
And I sure hope that the money you are saving for a 'house' is in your name somewhere. It will be too late once she empties the account and moves on.
Move that money now!
Morenito0211, listen to what EVERYONE is telling you. The affair never stop, she just took it underground. She chose OM over your wishes. She got the job connect thru the OM. She wants to work with OM.
Again, like everyone is saying, it's time to end this.
Why are you complaining when you have chosen, out of your own free will, to stay with this woman who has cheated on you twice and is possibly going for a third betrayal?
If you marry her, I can almost guarantee you that she will turn off the sex and will be giving it to another man. You will be a cuckold in a one sided open marriage. Is that what you want? If the answer is no then you have to grow a pair and dump her NOW!
Women are attracted to men who never allow themselves to disrespected and never to weak, pathetic, needy men. Your fiancee's affair are a sign that she's looking for such a man and when she finds him, she'll dump you without even a second thought.
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