Dear goodness gracious, you guys.
So, he texted me at about four this afternoon, saying "we are at the college now".
I'm thinking. WE?????
Yes, he brought her with him!
I had to figure out how I was going to work this one out. I texted him and asked if she was going to wait outside while we talked inside. My H was like "this is a bad idea, just back out now" but I was set on telling him the truth and getting it over with (I have been worrying over this SO much, you guys have no idea.) I told him I would be okay.
Well, I went to the library. Him, her, and their two kids were there. THEN she said, "You ready to go into the library, you guys?" She was going to go in there as well! Thankfully, for a moment she had to fetch the older child, so I whispered to him, "Can we talk alone?" He got the message and asked her to stay outside, saying we wouldn't be long. She agreed.
So, I designated a study room for us to talk in & everything. As soon as we went in, I said "This is about your W." He chuckled, as if he expected it. He said "I figured since you wouldn't tell me what you needed help with." I sat there and was like "please wait until later to tell her. I just really feel the need to tell you this. She didn't tell you for a year and doesn't plan on it so I felt the need to tell you." (He was chuckling here and there this whole time....)
You guys, I was almost in tears at this point, I was so terrified to tell him. I was seriously choking out my words at this point. I almost cried but held it back.
"Your W slept with 5 guys while y'all were separated. She doesn't know if your child is yours or another guy's, but she thinks it's yours because 'he looks like you'." (Spend a few minutes explaining further what I know.)
He was kinda quiet, but then he said, "Yeah, a few other people have tried to tell me that she cheated (implying he didn't believe them). It's not a big deal if she did anyway, we were separated at the time. It's just a bunch of drama. But I mean, I'll bring it up to her tonight. And I know the child is mine. He looks like me, and it doesn't make sense for him to be the other guys' baby, I mean one of the guys is in the army and overseas" (he was seriously acting like I didn't know what I was talking about.)
I bursted his bubble by saying "No, actually, she slept with him, THEN he left to go to the army, I know because she was texting him at my house."
He was quiet after that then just said he would talk to her again tonight about it. It was really awkward, I was just kinda babbling at that point "Well I mean..I just thought I should tell you...I thought it was the right thing.." I ended up saying, "well, anyway, that's what I had to talk to you about." He told me that he would go ahead and leave and I could stay so I could look like I was actually studying.
A few hours later, she ended up texting me a nasty message, but I didn't read it, just deleted it and blocked her from my Facebook.
I feel pretty negative and dumb from the interaction. While I know his response was on the good side of what it could been, Ellegirl hit the nail on the head. He was totally embarrassed and in denial. I just want to know that I did the right thing, and I feel like I did.
I dunno, what do you guys think? Do you think that he won't believe me and I told him for no reason (I thought he would believe me since I was pretty much crying when I told him) or do you think he will end up blowing up at her later? I dunno. I just feel bleh about it. :/ H keeps reassuring me that I did the right thing, though. He says he's proud of me for doing it.