Originally Posted by MissMoneypenny View Post
Where do you start with that one!
First of all, what is the purpose of your question? Do you wish to figure out what your next move is? Do you wish to get back with your wife? Why do you care what happens next in her life?
Of course, if the purpose is to find out if all this was the cause of your breakup then you should just ask. I think I would want to know if only just so that next time round I could spot the symptoms and might be able to do something about it etc. At least you would be learning from it.
If the reason is so that you can try and dissuade your wife, then I wouldn't bother. It is not really your concern. You're splitting up. She obviously doesn't need your help... of course, what is disconcerting is the fact that you're accompanying her to see her lover
I'm not quite sure how I would feel about that myself... very hurt, used and a little sickened maybe?
I would still confront him/her and ask about it though... maybe it might help you in your quest?
I dont know what the purpose of the question.
I suppose a part of it was just to vent to somebody more than anything.
And you are right about the fact that I was dropping her off to the very person that she was cheating on me with, I feel betrayed, sick to the stomach and just hurt.
Im worried for her because I obviously still care for her, but I certainly do not want a reconcilliation. Being married we had a few very close mutual friends, since this has happened and I have told them about this they are going to disown her.
She is also very very close to my family, my mum and her were like best friends at times. She doesn't have a close relationship with any of her family. Outside of our mutual close friends she changes circles of friends frequently and doesn't have any other close friends.
My prediction is that this relationship will not last, and when it breaks down she will have no one. This was a conversation I had with one of our close mutual friends (female), and she said she was scared of exactly what I was. But she could not continue to have a friendship with my wife.
And then very nicely went on to say how wonderful I was, how I must NOT take this personally. That my wife doesn't appreciate what she had, and that I should not be worried about my future.
I really needed to hear that from someone, because finding this out has obviously made me very low.