So it's been a week since there was any contact between the OW and myself. I am wanting to tell her off... but just short and sweet, no need to draw it out into a big long thing. Thoughts?
I know she's not worth my time. If she says anything else then I'll respond. All I want to say is stop acting like the victim, you knew what you were doing, stop wasting my time asking for forgiveness and leave me alone. Posted via Mobile Device
Hehe. If you do respond you SHOULd tell her what you said above
"You are not a victim in this so don't try to pass yourself off as one.
While married to your husband, you had an affair with my husband, also married. You knew exactly what you were doing and even got pregnant and had a married man's child, my husband's child. This is your doing. Do not ask for my forgiveness and do not pretend as if you had no part in this. Do not contact me again. Your conscience must eat at you daily. You had no problems betraying two marriages, one of which was your own."
I will probably wait for her to contact me, but it would also be nice to let her have it.
Jelly, thanks for the suggestion on what to say... I just have to be careful what I say because who knows what she'll do and use it against my H. Regardless of what is going on with him and I, if we stay together or not, I'm not going to set him up so she can use it to attack him more then she already is.
I think I have decided to go through with the divorce. I love him and probably always will, I miss him many days, but even though there were so many good times, they just can't outweigh the bad. How do you know when it's really over? How do you make your heart stop hurting and move on with your life? It will take time, I know, but it's so hard. Posted via Mobile Device
Divorce is never easy . It reads like your mind is made up . See a lawyer , go dark on your husband or you will be back and forth , let the legal system take it's course. Follow your lawyers council, let the lawyer handle it from here. Posted via Mobile Device
Snowy, if only there were a crystal ball that said when it was "really" over, right? It's different for everyone. I think for you, the reality of knowing he impregnanted a married woman while in just the first year of your marriage says it all. It may help you to keep repeating to yourself "My husband cheated on me with another married woman and got her pregnant and now has a child." Sometimes when we say things out loud, it drives it home.
There are friends of mine on facebook who are also friends of my H. There are some we haven't talked to in years and today I got a message from one saying they saw baby pics on my H's page and asked if I had one and congrats.
Do I ignore it, do I reply with the truth, do I say talk to him? Posted via Mobile Device
Exactly. This isn't your secret and you have nothing to be ashamed of. It WILL get out so you might as well be honest with anyone who asks. Stick to the facts so you don't give fuel to the rumor mill. "My husband had an affair and fathered the child pictured." Posted via Mobile Device
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