Makes things just to easy! all the social networking small issues that can be worked out get ignored by the excitment of talking to new friends & the vampires out there praying on women.
So are drugs & other endulgences,way to easy to start something when its not face to face & anonomous, how many people here would talk like they do to strangers about their issues? not many its good & bad in a way.
Well I try but the other party my wife has to want to too? cant make somebody do something,I could be a jerk & cancelll the internet service but what would that do make me look like a controlling jerk,Im taking all the steps right now counciling books ect.,now she has to make a move either way.I love my wife so much but I also need it in return.
I'm with VThomeschoolmom. The problem isn't Facebook. It may make things easier, but it's only one of many options that make it easier for people to cheat if they want to or are open to it.
However, it's much easier to blame something like Facebook for cheating, rather than a spouse for making that decision, or taking the blame personally for not dealing with the situation before it comes to that.
Agree with above posters. I actually have spoke of this in counseling with H. He despises FB as he feels like you. However, for me it was reconnecting with old female friends. He has also mentioned this to his pastor whom he had a session with. BOTH told him facebook is not the cause. That if there is trust, love, communication, there shouldn't be a problem. FB is just an avenue, not the cause.
People could go out to public places, reconnect as well and find ways to continue those connections should they choose to.
Before FB is was MySpace, before that it was cell phones and email. Before techonology it was secret phone calls from pay phones or meeting places.
Well I try but the other party my wife has to want to too? cant make somebody do something,I could be a jerk & cancelll the internet service but what would that do make me look like a controlling jerk,
It wouldn't just make you LOOK like one, in my opinion!
What is the actual problem? That she spends too much time? That her emotional energy is diverted? That she is engaging in an actual emotional affair? The advice you are going to get will be different depending on the nature of the actual issue.
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Im taking all the steps right now counciling books ect.,now she has to make a move either way.I love my wife so much but I also need it in return.
Counseling might work. If she won't go, go yourself. It is not unheard of for a spouse to take that as a wake up call.
Just like the drugs aren't the problem, it is the drug addict that is the problem? Why do alcoholics avoid going into bars and nightclubs? Should a ex-crack user still hang around with friends using crack?
My point being is that facebook makes cheating far easier and anonymous than it ever has been before. No more sneaking around for clandestine meetings, just log on to the computer and spend hours chatting with your ex-boyfriend from high school.
It is not the root cause of the problem I agree but it is a drug for some and can make something that seems completely innocent into a destructive and damaging affair that ruins marriages and relationships.
If your partner has ever strayed, or even thought about it, I would encourage you to have them abandon their facebook account. Nothing good will come of it, I assure you.
Why is it unfortunate? I found an old friend that I used to be best buddies with in HS! Facebook has allowed me to keep in touch with people who live forever away from me.
I think it is nuts to advocate denying some people decent use of this tool because some people might misuse it.
Just like the drugs aren't the problem, it is the drug addict that is the problem? Why do alcoholics avoid going into bars and nightclubs? Should a ex-crack user still hang around with friends using crack?
My point being is that facebook makes cheating far easier and anonymous than it ever has been before. No more sneaking around for clandestine meetings, just log on to the computer and spend hours chatting with your ex-boyfriend from high school.
So should alcohol be denied to people who have no trouble drinking responsibly because some people do? That would be the parallel to shutting down Facebook.
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If your partner has ever strayed, or even thought about it, I would encourage you to have them abandon their facebook account. Nothing good will come of it, I assure you.
If your spouse has ever cheated and there are still unresolved trust issues then you have bigger fish to fry than Facebook.
I never said shut it down, I said people who struggle with fidelity should cancel their account. Facebook makes cheating so easy, so if there is even a slight crack in the foundation, Facebook can turn it into a massive crevasse. I do equate it to a drug user who keeps drugs in his cupboard. It is the vehicle. Lead us not into temptation...
Rumor FB shutting down WOOHOOO!!! 
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