Re: Hopefully it's not too late
ABC, Dude, In my opinion, Your marriage is deader than fried chicken. BUT, if you still want to try to "save", it, listen to Pete and Affaircare about the legal aspects of what has been happening. Sometimes I disagree with them, but they have a great fund of knowledge about divorce issues............ First, did you , in any recordable way, admit to her that you recieved the divorce papers? If she can prove that you got them, you have a far weaker case. If you've told nobody (but your lawyer) then you can ignore them. Just say that you saw some trash on the floor and without looking at it, threw it away. If she is going to serve you papers, she is going to have to do it in a legally verifiable way. Second, at this point, you've nothing to lose, so out her and OM to every person you know, including ALL of his bosses and co-workers. Make it tough on them to conduct the affair. If it becomes too hard or embarrassing, then a lot of the "fun", will be taken out of it, and maybe some of the fog will lift. Third, if and when you DO talk to her, tell her NOTHING concerning divorce-related items, only talk to her about reconciliation, and be honest and truly try to communicate with her. Carrot and stick......publically, you make it hot for them, privately, you show your loving, reasonable, affectionate side.