01-18-2011, 09:56 AM
Join Date: Dec 2010
| | Marriage seems to be over, what now? Rant
How do people do this to each other, how did my wife do this to me? My story ... on Sept 24th I discovered that my W was having an A. We agreed to work on things for 6 months, on Sept 29th I was diagnosed with Pulmonary Hypertension, it's disease with no cure and at some 5 - 10 years it will kill me. On Oct 30th I discovered that they were still talking. In therapy she called it closure. They must suck at closure because just yesterday I discovered that they had been talking more on then off for the past 4 months, and meeting up. W says that it can not work between us because for the past 4 months I have been controlling and smothering and have not trusted her. Well no #$#@, does she think that she could pull the wool over my eyes and I would not see the red flags. She would get mad at me for questioning her whereabouts. Last night I told her that I was talking to the OM's W and she got mad at me, are you kidding me. Both of us are trying to pull our spouses out of the fog and save our marriage.
All of this is almost too much to handle, my health, the affair. She continued to talk to him after and while I have been going through so much. She says I can't make her happy and that she is not in-love with me. She says for the last 4 months she has been trying to make things work between us, trying to make me happy, herself happy but it does not work. Sorry, but it won't work if you are still with the OM.
Married 10 years
Two boys 6 & 1