05-12-2011, 09:16 AM
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Denton, TX
Re: Cheating wife still talking to OM What to do?
This got my attention.
Originally Posted by LostIn
Sorrysole, I don't completely agree with you, but I can see how you feel that way. If she does come back and this happens again
I'm sure I'll look at this different.
I think in 6 months to a year from now you'll think differently. If you had a friend who's wife cheated on him like yours did what advice would you give him?
Your brain is trying to rationalize staying with her just like her brain is trying to rationalize the affair. You are both too emotional to think clearly.
I get the impression that she is just biding her time until the OM's divorce is final before jumping ship and running to him. She may just try to pacify you in the mean time until she is ready. If she was stupid enough to do this it would be a guaranteed failure but don't try to stop her if she does. Some people have to learn things the hard way.
You have to take the tough love approach and have her face the consequences now. She has to be scared that she will lose you forever and get a chance to miss you. That means turning your back on her until she is beating down your door to talk to you.
You also have to develop habits that make you less of a taker. Don't tell her you are doing this, just do it and she will see for herself later.