[QUOTE=DawnD;263779]The OW's H is the one who told me, and told my H the same thing. The answer my H had was to try and make sure he couldn't find me. Honestly, I think its more upsetting that some people think its okay to lie about that in the first place. You shouldn't have to be blackmailed into telling your spouse, but it happens. My H didn't like the fact this guy busted him out, but honestly it always comes out of the closet. Eventually. Maybe twenty years from now, maybe tomorrow. Why not do the right thing in the first place?[/
Well that is why i can't cheat in the first place. I'm sorry you had to be informed this way, but atleast you found out.
I think it is great she divorced him, more loyal spouses should get out when there are no children. I wonder why he got married in the first place.
It would have been easier to stay single and continue seeing other women.
I think the man did the right thing he bucked the code of silence but that makes him a decent man. He felt more compassion for for your niece than for her husband.
Who cares what a cheater thinks, if he got aggressive, the decent man would have to remind him that assault would bring more problems.
Funny that you asked that, because they are Jehova Witness. So they married young 19, and they were their first lovers because you don't get to randomly date and hookup. Once you seriously date someone, you are on your way to marriage. What the belief is, and we could be way off is that he stepped out of frustration. Basically, my niece was very glamorous, easily a 10 in the looks category. Unfortunately, she was also high strung, and had a way of getting her point across. So we believe after a few years of marriage, he may have wanted to "experiment" in the bedroom, and she shot him down in her way that pretty much belittled him. Us black folk call it the "Halle Berry" syndrome.
Years ago Halle Berry was married to R&B singer Eric Benet, who cheated on her, and his reasoning was that as pretty as Halle Berry was, she wasn't down for anything extra in the bedroom, and you couldn't convince her because... she's Halle Berry and you better be happy just to be sharing a bed with her. So that's what we kinda thought happened here. My niece would get hit on EVERYWHERE, and her husband, while handsome, was just a regular guy. With them having no prior experiences, she probably didn't have any thoughts about pushing the boundaries in the bedroom. She shot him down, and then all of a sudden this OW ( who was fat and nowhere near as attractive) comes in and says "Sure, i'll do that." And there you have it.