WhereAmI

That's what you think at the moment and you're in need of help. If you find the will to attempt to heal yourself you may end up seeing things differently. How can you possibly respect her if you can't respect yourself? Once you realize that your boyfriend is putting his wife in jeopardy, I think you'll see them both in a different light.

Digby

Thing is it is all my fault! he had never cheated ! I chased him like a dog, do I feel guilty ? I don't know what I feel really. Sorry I am really having a bummer of a day.

HappyAtLast

It takes two to tango...it's only half your fault. He's married and he should have known better. If he no longer wanted to be married, then he should have said so, instead of sneaking around behind her back.

WhereAmI

It's just as much his fault, more-so even.

At the beginning of my relationship with my husband his best friend hit on me numerous times. He used every tactic he could from sweet lines about love to offering to "teach" me sexual things that my H would like. He couldn't make me do a goddamn thing.

You cannot make a man do anything.

He tells you he's never cheated, but you have no idea if that's the truth. He lies to the woman he married. Do you really think he's going to be 100% truthful to you? You're not the most important woman in his life. Assume whatever he does to her, he's willing to do worse to you.

Forsaken

What is your situation with this guy? Where did you meet? How do you guys go about things? Give us more in depth info on everything. You apparently came here for help and there are a lot of people here that can give you great advice.

Runs like Dog

Exactly right. There'd be no trollops if there were no men cavorting with them.

Digby

I can assure you I am no trollop ! we met through a same interest situation, one that his wife has no interest. It was not love at first sight, just lust I guess. I invited him to mine for diner one evening and nothing happened just food and chat, it did not happen till months later. Yes in some aspect I do feel guilty.

HungUp

I actually have a lot of respect for this "trollops" balls!

She's come on here bragging about being the other woman, but my guess is she's still suffering from screwing her own marriage up, one way or another. Of course I expect you to deny this but I don't think you'd be here otherwise.

You 'could' get a lot of help from this site, but you have to be truthful to yourself aswell as us.

Digby

I have been divorced for 10years + My ex is on marriage 3 . I only married the once, and may never again.

HungUp

Hey I'm over 6 years and stull struggling, so I guess I can easily believe you are still suffering at 10+. Pardon me if I'm wrong but your ex being on marriage 3 could hint that you may have suffered like some of us?

Or, just look at what you write in your opening post - "Am I wrong for being in this situation ?". Can you please TRY telling us if you see anything wrong with this question?

Digby

I do feel wrong! yes! But I care and love him. So explain that ? feelings.

Runs like Dog

It's just a turn of phrase.

Digby

Maybe, but we make each other smile. And happy in my world is good.

HappyAtLast

But for how long? And when his wife finds out about the affair, will her world be good? And will she be smiling? Highly doubtful.

Pit-of-my-stomach

Not biting Digby.