03-03-2011, 01:33 PM
Join Date: Jun 2010
| | Re: limbo, having major grief issues
Paramore, I have been reading all your threads. First, I am certainly not qualified to offer advice to anyone, so you can take what I say with a grain of salt. I do not understand why you seem to be blaming yourself for the situation your marriage is in. Your husband did the same thing you did and if I remember correctly, it was initially his idea, correct? Now, he continues to have an affair with that woman. Why, my dear, do you feel as if it is all your fault? You state that you understand all of the feelings that he is having, well, maybe you should be having some of the same feelings that he is, he wronged you just as much as you wronged him. This was not a one-sided deception. Maybe if you treated him a little of the way that he is treating you, he'd be a bit more understanding. He's got his girl on the side and you waiting at home, what more could a man want? I agree with fighting for your marriage and if that is what you want, more power to you. But, somehow, you cannot place all the blame on yourself for the failure of this relationship. He was/is just as guilty as you are. I'm sorry if I have misstated or misunderstood some of your posts. If I did, please accept my apologies if I do not have the facts correct. If I do, then you need to get hold of yourself and "man-up" as they say on this board. I truly wish you the best and I do hope that things work out for you. As suggested, prayer would help at this time. I will be praying for God's guidance in your life.