03-07-2011, 10:55 AM
Join Date: Mar 2010
| | Re: Good and Bad Days
It also gives me hope to hear that you've made it to the 2 year mark. I'm just 2 months past D-day, so I have those days you're describing a couple days a week. I'm hoping that it decreases over time, but I'm not surprised you're still getting them 2 years out.
I found out recently that my Grandfather cheated on my Grandmother after about 30 years of marriage. Anyway, my Grandparents stayed married and I never knew it happened until after his death. I would love to talk to my Grandma about it, but I'm not ready to share my husband's infidelity with family. However, from what I've heard, my Grandma would have bad days decades after it happened. She would get angry, deal, then move on yet again.
Sometimes I wonder if she ever regretted staying with him. But I only saw a happily married couple who square danced, played cards, attended our birthday parties, and traveled the world together. We celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary a few years before his death and I never doubted the love they had for each other. When I look at my Grandma, I see someone who lived a life full of love, not regret. Her strength gives me strength, and hope.