Sakaye

Back in Jan/Feb my husband dropped off the face of the earth. Left me 7 mos. pregnant with no contact whatsoever. He called at the end of Feb, to say it was over and we were to be civil, for the baby's sake. Then he came to see me, hands all over me etc, saying "We'll get past this, we'll work things out. I love you."
I don't know if I just have an overly suspicious mind now, but my gut tells me he left because of a fling. He had blocked me from his facebook, but we have SO many mutual friends that I was told anyway that he was out partying and there were photos of him drunk with other girls. I refused to believe it at the time, but my friend came over, logged on, and I just broke down crying. He refuses to admit to anything, of course.
We are almost having our baby soon and I can't seem to shake the feeling of someone else in the picture.

I've always been trusting. I've not ever been one of those wives always questioning him, pestering, and accusing. I don't want to be now. But, from the very beginning, when we were still just dating, I told him I have zero tolerance for cheating other halves. I refuse to allow myself to go through pain associated with a cheating partner.

So how do I go about addressing this without going off the deep end? It is something I feel strongly about, and feel like I deserve to know the truth. I just want to know how to approach it.
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LonelyNLost

Insist on MC and testing for STD's. Tell him you've been notified by others that his absence wasn't innocent. You need to understand why he felt the need to leave. Needs weren't being met and you want to be a better wife and meet those needs, so let's learn how in marriage counseling. You are right to be suspicious. Husbands don't just up and disappear for no reason.

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~ You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. ~

Or, you could be a big sap and trust your husband, and he could end up being a lying, spineless, cheater.

Jellybeans

It's rare the cheater who will come right out and tell you they did it. If you have hardcore evidence, then you can show it to him.

My thinking is that 90% of the time when someone walks out, there is someone else.

mama wonder

No doubt, there is or was someone else.

For a man to ditch you when you are 7 months pregnant? Wow!

No use keeping him around is there?

If you still need to hear it from him though, you can.

Make sure it is in a public place, to avoid any messy situation.

Keep a level head and try to keep your emotions in check.

And get him to commit financially to your unborn child.

Do not get back to his sorry *&^%