03-21-2011, 11:48 AM
Join Date: Feb 2011
| | Re: Should I confess to an affair
This is a hard situation to give advice on. I feel that your H deserves to know, though I also agree with what others have said about being a better spouse to him to make up for it and that you should not tell him.
Since I am in the military and I went through an EA with my wife I will give you my perspective. I am no longer mission effective, if I had to be deployed in the near future I would not be able to do my job as I would be emotionally compromised. All I would be able to think about the whole time I would be away is what's going on behind my back.
I am in the Army National Guard, and even during my 2-3 days a month I cannot focus on what I need to do, all I can think about is who she is texting/talking to and where is she and has anyone came over to my house since I left (I had a friend tell me that 10 minutes after I left for drill one weekend my wife phucked my roommate) so I am a wreck. I start having a lot of anxiety/panic attacks and my thoughts become uncontrollable.
I'm supposed to go out of state for 3 weeks in May for Annual Trainning, and I don't know what I'm going to do because I'm going to be a complete wreck.
With all of that in mind, you decide one what you think is best. I would personally suggest telling him but not now. Become the best wife you can be.