I have known my wife for almost twenty years, more than half my life. Our marriage was not perfect but it was not bad. I began a four month affair with a co-worker that started out with cell phone calls and moved on to meeting for drinks where there was physical contact. My wife found out and when she confronted me I deneid alot of what happened (ie: the physical contact). It took me nearly another four weeks to officialy break off the affair.
I love my wife more than anything and am very sorry for the pain I caused her. It is difficult for her to believe me when I say I do love her, and also fears that it will happen again because I have not given her a satisfactory reason for why I had the affair. I realy enjoyed the false intimacy of the affair, and felt it was lacking in the marriage, but I never went tomy wife to discuss it. I know she had wants that were not being met as well and she did not cheat on me.
She feels the need to have me bring up the affair but it is hard to gage the timing to do so. Any ideas on doing this constructively. Also on bridging the issues of trust. I leave all my receipts out, she has all my email information and I let her know where I am. I know I turned her life upside down but feel I am losing her in the process.
Any ideas or thoughts would be helpful.
I love my wife more than anything and am very sorry for the pain I caused her. It is difficult for her to believe me when I say I do love her, and also fears that it will happen again because I have not given her a satisfactory reason for why I had the affair. I realy enjoyed the false intimacy of the affair, and felt it was lacking in the marriage, but I never went tomy wife to discuss it. I know she had wants that were not being met as well and she did not cheat on me.
She feels the need to have me bring up the affair but it is hard to gage the timing to do so. Any ideas on doing this constructively. Also on bridging the issues of trust. I leave all my receipts out, she has all my email information and I let her know where I am. I know I turned her life upside down but feel I am losing her in the process.
Any ideas or thoughts would be helpful.