paramore

LOL AF, Hurt, you will get through this, I promise you. With or without them we will survive. Your next relationship will be even better because you learned the hard way.

HurtinginTN

paramore

yeah, that one made me lol too.

lordmayhem

Didn't deploy for that short one...but OEF/OIF is another story. I was gone so much I missed most of HS for the older one. I figured if my M could survive all that and an unaccompanied toure, we were rock solid. Didn't have facebook then, and not only did she slip on the slippery slope, she fell down hard on her way to her online EA.

The 13th_Floor

Funny. I only did 5 years, awesome shot myself, but like you, I shot blanks in my marriage. I guess you can also say I shot "dummy" rounds, lol.

To make matters worse, my wife cheated on me with a private in the Air Force. Oh the PAIN of knowing that... Okay, the pain is gone now, until next time...

Lilyana

Thank you all for your service

lordmayhem

Not to threadjack too much, but enlisted ranks below E-5 are Airman Basic, Airman (1 stripe) Airman First Class (2 stripes), and Senior Airman (3 stripes). So OM was an airman?

HurtinginTN

5 years in the Corps? Semper Fi, brother. Too bad our wives didn't live by that motto, huh? For you non-jarheads, Semper Fidelis is the Marine Corps motto, meaning Always Faithful.

We had the big Marine Corps wedding. I was a platoon sergeant at the time. I had several Marines there. We walked under the swords on the way out and all of that. You know the part where you get to the end of the swords? The end man drops his sword and stops the couple. The next man smacks the bride (or groom for a female Marine getting married) on the rump (with a sword) and says Welcome to the Corps Maam (or sir). We should change the tradition to make the new spouse commit to the motto. lol

I thought you said your wife cheated on you with someone in the military. Is the Air Force considered part of the military? Just kidding, you fly-boys.

HurtinginTN

You're welcome, ma'am.

The 13th_Floor

I was Army, but Semper Fi anyway. Yep, my wife's OM was an Airman. When I talked to him on the phone, he sounded more suited for the Salvation Army. Prick.
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Pit-of-my-stomach

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!

Talk about a f*cking joke. My wife's OM, my "friend" was a person I trusted and invited into my home. I took to heart the idea that "marines" and "friends" had some level of honor and deserved my trust. Part of the reason I allowed myself to be BRUTALLY GASLIGHTED for almost 2 years while my W was having an affair with him. Yeah, always fu*cking faithful.

Yep, I'm fu*cking bitter. Talk about a trigger! Anything military is a monsterous trigger for me and "Semper Fi / Marine honor talk" is the little red button on the mushroom cloud of thermo nuclear hurt and anger.

Sorry, no offense to those that don't deserve it. Had to get that out.

Maybe if my STB-exW marries this piece of sh*t we can get a special ceremony where they get to the end of the aisle and they stick those sword into mine and my son's backs.

meh.

Again, no offense to those undeserving of my venom. It's a shame what this person as done in my soul to the entire idea of any sort of military honor.

:deep breath: + :sigh:

we'll be ok. (me & son). That just popped a big trigger there.

Carry on.

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HurtinginTN

Better yet, the two of them could get the sharp side instead of the flat side.

Sorry about the trigger. While most Marines hold true to Semper Fidelis when it comes to each other, more often than not it doesn't flow through to the wives. It's kind of a common thought, "I trust these men with my life, but I certainly don't trust them with my wife."

I definitely understand your bitterness. Everyone that lives in Colorado is a piece of ****. lol

I don't know if they still do it, because I have been out about 12 years. Not too long before I got out, they issued everyone cards. I believe they were called "Core Value Cards" or something to that effect. You were supposed to carry that and your ID in your left breast pocket. It had "Honor, Courage, Committment." I guess that POS Marine never even looked at his, because he missed all 3.

Grayson

No worries, Pit...I can relate. My wife's OM can't introduce himself personally or online without using the phrase "former military" as many times as possible. So, I can understand that one bad apple spoiling the whole bunch for you. He's got a bumper sticker that I see when I pass his car at work every day that says, "Thank a vet today...for your freedom.". And every day, I want to plaster my own sticker over that last part that says, "...unless he's f**ked your wife."

He's also a real piece of work in that he claims to have back and neck pain so severe that he's trying to get the VA to approve him for 100% disability...while at the same time trying to get them to approve him to return to active duty.

Scumbag.
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HurtinginTN

OK. We will have a weekend together without the kids. We have the motorcycle class tomorrow and Sunday from 7:00 am to 5:00 pm. The kids are staying at their grandparents from tonight through Sunday night. We haven't really talked all week after the blowup Monday night. Also, I don't think there has been any communication. It is possible she has another prepaid phone, but I have no evidence of anything yet.

My question is - Do I initiate any conversation about the relationship? I am thinking about suggesting we start the book "Surviving an Affair" together. We have the book and I have read most of it. When I found the last call, she said she would read it with me. Should I just leave it alone, or bring up the book. We'll have tonight and tomorrow night home alone together.

Grayson

I would bring it up, if I were you. Our MC has given me the standing "homework" of not bottling up what I'm feeling abou our relationship and telling my wife what I need in order to rebuild our relationship. So...I do.
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