Finalizing my divorce was one of the most painful experiences in my life.
I'll never forget that sad, tears streaming, beautiful face and eyes pleading with me.
Afterwards, I went home and drank myself into a stupor and cried my a** off.
I did what I had to do but it hurt. God did it hurt.
How do you feel now? Does it get any easier? I'm still married but I will be filing for divorce soon as I can get enough funds. I dont want to get divorced but what choice to do I have? Stay married to a man who will only cheat on me time and time again? That's not what I want.
I'm fine now and yet it does get easier but don't let anybody tell you otherwise, it is a one day at a time process.
Some weeks ago - while walking home - I had an accidental, chance encounter with her. Boy did that bring back a mixture of good and bad memories. Left me sad afterwards. I realized that there will always be a part of me that will love her and care deeply for her.
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I'm still married but I will be filing for divorce soon as I can get enough funds. I dont want to get divorced but what choice to do I have? Stay married to a man who will only cheat on me time and time again? That's not what I want.
Of course not. Unfortunately it isn't after the end of the marriage that our cheating spouses finally realized the impact of their affairs.
Without seeking revenge, a divorce can be more devastating to a cheating spouse than a so called revenge affair by his/her betrayed spouse.
I know it will be devastating to his pockets. He will not have any extra play money at all. But, that's what he wanted, right? This is the life he chose when he chose to separate from me, right? I'm not feeling sorry for him, he must deal with the consequences of his actions.
Any luck on finding an attorney to help you? have you been to legal services in your area? most of the time they will charge on a sliding fee scale and payment options.. or they will do it for free, depends on the situation.
At my point in time, I'm welcoming divorce.. I want it done and over with.. only problem is in my state, we have a 90 wait period (cooling off period) before it will enter the courts after its filed. So I want to get mine going ASAP. I really don't want to have the 90 days to wait and cool off.. I just want it done and over with so I can move on.
I know it will be devastating to his pockets. He will not have any extra play money at all. But, that's what he wanted, right? This is the life he chose when he chose to separate from me, right? I'm not feeling sorry for him, he must deal with the consequences of his actions.
As adults we deserve the consequences of our actions and though he is not acting like one, he is definitely no exception to this rule.
i'm at the point personally.. where I cant wait to get to the divorce. I've had enough! I don't care anymore, he can have his playtoys and BDSM fantasy or whatever it is he wants.. I WANT OUT! I'm done...
Now if only the rat b*stard would move out of my house! I have all the bills in my name.. and shut off his cell phone today.. so tonight should be interesting. Sorry, but i'm not payin for his communication to OW or sexlines.. hes got to take responsibility for that lol
Appleducklings,
Divorce can be painful if it's over miscommunication. However, your husband has been downright abusive to you from day one. In your case, divorce would be a relief. Don't you remember that nice man you dated briefly? Why don't you pine away after someone who was nice to you instead of wasting your time and heart on someone so cruel. You deserve better and your children deserve better.
Appleducklings,
Divorce can be painful if it's over miscommunication. However, your husband has been downright abusive to you from day one. In your case, divorce would be a relief. Don't you remember that nice man you dated briefly? Why don't you pine away after someone who was nice to you instead of wasting your time and heart on someone so cruel. You deserve better and your children deserve better.
Maybe my husband and I moved too fast? We met in May 1996, we started dating in July 1996, we got pregnant in Oct 1996, he proposed to me in Dec 1996, we married in May 1997 and our son was born in July 1997. I was 20 and he was 21 when we married. We never really had our own life together. When we met, he had a child, I had a child of my own and then we had a baby together. At age 21, I was home taking care of 2 toddlers plus an infant while he worked. Over the years, I have matured. He has not. No, I dont remember that nice man I dated because that nice man never existed. He was even sleeping around on me back then too. (I never knew about that until after we had been married about 8 years) When I married, I took my vows very seriously. I committed myself to him. I believe in marriage and the sanicity of marriage. I believe it is a holy thing before God (well, that is when your hubs is not out committing adultery) I'm hoping to have the money up for the divorce by next month and I can be done with him. Perhaps once the divorce is final, I will feel the weight lifted from my shoulders.
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