04-22-2011, 08:45 AM
Join Date: Apr 2011
| | Re: Maybe I Deserve This
Originally Posted by Lazarus
Accept the reality of your situation.
You will lose her the way you found her.....on the internet.
She's cheating on a cheater. You both deserve each other.
You are both doomed. Why? Because in order to have a happy long term marriage you both need to be happy in yourselves before you can be happy as a couple.
She's not happy....she's looking for more than you can provide....on the net,
Your'e not happy because she's cheating.
So there you have your reality. Accept it, or change it.
Stop the wedding and sort yourselves out by making yourselves happy.
You are about to learn what its like to have your heart broken by a cheater. It's painful.
You might rescue this but, youre entering into a marriage with no trust and if you do move forward with it you'll be worrying about more than just your valuables! Instead in the future you may be left holding the baby/ies ... quite literally. Or worse, your future kids might end up in care because two people are so wrapped up in themselves and unresolved issues that your kids may end up with a volatile, uncertain future.
Grab the bull by the horns and tell her the marriage is off, you know what's going on. Either she commits fully to you with part of that going to seek help:-
1) for her anger - throwing things about
2) for counselling individually and for you both to sort
3) write down what you want out of life - her too
4) pull the individual wants out of life ..and discuss what each of you are prepared to sacrifice in order to be together.